One of the hallmarks of people with border-limit personality disorder is the difficulty dealing with their emotions. Are emotions always at the forefront?They can go through many emotional ups and downs that hinder and in some cases compromise their relationship with the outside world. Therefore, they will need specialized help to provide them with useful tools related to social behavior.
To locate onesensitive one must understand that a border-limiting personality disorder (TLP) is characterized by a way of being rigid and inflexible, we are talking about people who have difficulty identifying themselves, socially ill-adapted, with great emotional instability and a very negative character. But why is emotional management so complicated for people with this disorder?
- Biosocial theory argues that the main problem with LTF is lack of emotional control; In addition.
- This difficulty can have different origins: a certain biological predisposition.
- An environmental context of invalidation and the interaction of these two factors.
- Result of emotional vulnerability and lack of effective strategies to control emotions.
Emotional vulnerability is defined as hypersensitivity to any emotion, whether positive, negative or neutral, this hypersensitivity usually results in a very intense and variable response on the part of the person with TLP, this intensity produces such an imbalance that these people find it very difficult to recover emotions. Balance.
On the other hand, instability and lack of emotional control, according to biosocial theory, have a biological basis, which does not mean that it is hereditary, this biological predisposition may be different for each person, therefore, a common biological factor present in all have not yet been found cases of limit personality disorder.
One of the factors that affects the difficulty of regulating the emotions of people with TLP and, also of people who do not suffer from TLP, is the family and social environment in which they grew up, we usually find families in the office that have not validated the emotional needs of their children. Emotions are considered unimportant expressions for the environment in the environment in which they lived.
A paralyzing family can cause a lot of damage to a person’s self-esteem as it forms in childhood. If parents ignore the child’s needs or respond critically, the child will grow up feeling rejected and misunderstood. A very critical environment turns children into frustrated, angry, sad and fearful people.
For example, if the child cries and instead of trying to figure out what’s wrong with him, they tell him that he is a crying baby and that he should stop crying, he learns that it is not good to show his emotions and that if he expresses they “are scolded”. The child also learns to express his emotions in an extreme way: he inhibits them or completely disin inhibits them. As this dysfunctional expression develops, it becomes more pronounced.
People with border-limiting personality disorder are very sensitive to external experiences because they are afraid of abandonment, so they respond with great intensity to any emotion, whether anger or joy, they suffer an emotional instability that is difficult to control. For example, they often experience episodes of intense anxiety and frustration that are projected on other people through disrespectful behavior.
Going back to calm, after the intensity with which you feel emotions, is not easy, people with TLP can be very impulsive and have difficulty modulating their emotions in the face of something that upsets them, so much so that in many cases they unknowingly delegan control. from his actions to his own emotions.
In addition, they have reckless, radical and very fickle opinions; in this sense, instability also injures the circle of social support at their disposal, usually they have few friends and the people who stay by their side are the ones who understand that many of their impulsive behaviors are the result of their illness.
“Self-harm is a way for people with TLP to express their contained anger; Is it important that they learn to deal with their anger in a way that doesn’t hurt them?
The feeling of emptiness is a very common feeling in people with border-limit personality disorder, nothing is enough to fill this great nonspecific void and causes a sadness that they often do not know how to explain or express. their emotional backpack, they carry a melancholy they don’t know how to handle.
They’re having a hard time controlling their anger, as a result, they explode uncontrollably or inhibit anger until they become self-aggressive. Self-harm is a way to express anger that you can’t otherwise express.
In such cases, it is important that they learn to control their anger by consciously choosing how they will expend the energy that accompanies emotion. Expressing anger with excessive impulse can have serious consequences, which you may regret later.
The first step is to learn to accept and understand your emotions as they arise, identify and accept the emotions that exist on your horizon before they flood you, without denying reality, in this sense it will be important that they learn to tolerate their emotions. suffering with emotional control strategies.
One of the therapies that has worked is Marsha Linehan’s TDC (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy), this therapy is based on teaching social skills and motivation to reduce impulsive behaviors and suicidal ideas, so they can see the world as a place where there is also space. for them.
The development of the emotional skills of people with border-limiting personality disorder will be a very important aspect to improve their social and personal adaptation, being essential individual therapy, therapeutic groups and homework, provided that they are guided and supervised by a specialist.