Is thought the mental product resulting from the work capacity of all human beings?with your mind, that is, reflect or interpret what happens around you or in yourself. But what are “thought errors”?
Human beings spend days, hours and a life thinking, we evaluate what happens to us, we think of things that are not important and even abstract, we often have thoughts that we are ashamed of and sometimes travel with our minds to the past or the past. Future.
- Our ability to think is undoubtedly enormous.
- And knowing how to deal with it is fundamental to good emotional health.
- Thoughts determine our emotions and these.
- In turn.
- Determine our behavior.
There are thoughts that make us feel foolish emotions that we call automatic negative thoughts or cognitive distortions, not all thoughts arouse important emotions: for example, if I think, does a dog bark?It is very likely that this will produce absolutely nothing for me. Emotionally.
It would be completely different if I thought this: is there a dog barking?And then make sense of it. For example, if I imagine that “the dog is angry and can attack me”, the situation changes completely, because according to my thinking, my survival or my physical integrity are in danger, then I desenchant an anxiety response, with all that implies.
There are many distortions, but we will focus on analyzing the thought errors that I think are the most common and can shake us emotionally.
This distortion occurs when I’m sure of what someone is thinking or when I think something is going to happen and I even put my hand on the fire, because it really will.
Obviously, this is illogical, because no one has the ability to predict the future, what others think and not even what they themselves will think or do in a few years, so why are we so sure what is going on or going to happen?we have an imaginary crystal ball that tells us everything that’s going to happen?
This is a very common mistake. Many times we consider that there is only black and white and we forget the gray with all its nuances, how many times do we think that nothing worked because we were wrong ?, ask yourself: how can a mistake transform everything?Aren’t you exaggerating a little?
People often believe that it is the center of the universe, both for good and evil, and think that others depend exclusively on them, on what they do or do not do, on how they dress, on what they say, etc.
The reality is that everyone is concerned about their problems and not what is happening in the lives of others, otherwise that person has a problem that needs to be solved.
As you may have guessed, with this error we take everything personally and, in this way, we feel anxiety, guilt, shyness, etc.
You make this mistake by exaggerating reality so much, without hard evidence, that you see threats everywhere and think in terms of what, what if I fail?What if my girlfriend leaves me?To all these questions, we have added the terrible adjective and lived as if there had really been a catastrophe from which we cannot recover.
Note that all these thought errors are due to different beliefs rooted in our being since childhood. In this way, being objective? is a process that takes time and effort, but can help you feel better.
You will become a more rational person and make fewer thought mistakes if:
We can only know reality through experimentation; You have to observe, touch, taste, hear and feel, there is no sixth sense that tells us anything else, therefore trust what you are living in the present moment, with your five senses, because at that moment that is reality. . What will happen in the future, or what will happen in another place or in someone else’s mind, is not your reality.
In addition to using all five senses to understand reality, you can ask yourself questions and ask yourself some questions: how can I be so sure that my colleague is criticizing me, what proof do I have that I will have a car accident?What are the chances of getting a disease?
As we have said, these distortions of thought come from our beliefs. They are like the roots of a tree and cognitive errors are its flowers. Analyze your beliefs and understand why you’re committing these distortions. Do you need love to be happy?Do you think anxiety helps solve problems?, Do you think some kind of person is wrong and deserves to be punished?
As if you were a scientist, you must perform experiments that confirm you or not whether what you think is right or msewed, if, for example, you think someone is talking bad about you behind your back, you will have to arm yourself and ask the person whether that is true or not.
Your answer will be used to understand if it’s real or just your imagination. This person may be lying to you, but we have no control over her!So let’s focus on what we can solve and forget everything else.