What’s it like to be yourself? We can say that acting naturally and being spontaneous is being yourself, it’s being who you are when you’re not afraid, you’re alone or with people you trust a lot.
It is not only fears that undermine the authenticity of people, many times, for different reasons, we do not live according to who we really are, with our values, our abilities and our vision of life, many factors can influence and distance ourselves from ourselves, such as traditions, lack of self-knowledge or simply doing things to please others.
- It is essential to stop and think about whether we are living our true essence or creating a character that we believe is better than we really are.
We’ve all met a character at some point in our lives, but it’s impossible to be happy if you don’t live your true ‘I’.
We need to know each other to live our true essence, for this we must think of three main points:
1- What do I do well?What are my skills?Knowing your strengths, you can orient yourself towards success and well-being.
2- What are my values?What is the most important thing in life?What do I want for my life? Don’t let chance run your life. Make your decisions; we will live a fuller life if we choose what we really want.
3- What motivates me? To achieve what we love most, it may be necessary to go back to childhood and rediscover those activities that made us so happy.
Through self-know-how we will have more tools to be ourselves, but often the lack of naturalness is caused by other factors.
1- You want to show an improved version of yourself, when we want to show the best possible image and we are too eager to please, it is likely to happen otherwise, we can not be natural because we feel pressured.
Naturalness depends on personal acceptance. We are unique and we all have good and bad things What is the most important thing, be beautiful or be happy ?, What will we gain if we show an image that is not real?Others may have a good impression, but inside we are unhappy that we do not show our true essence.
Don’t put on a mask to please the other, show yourself what it really is; The most important thing is your well-being.
2- Reflection centered on the image we want to show. If our focus is on ourselves, we will feel insecure and cannot be natural. We’re worried about what the other guy’s going to think of us.
The natural comes when we are not focused on the image we want to convey, but when the priority is to have fun and not worry about whether we are right or wrong.
3- Nervousness: Tension also destroys the natural and can have several causes, but the most common is to show a good image for fear of rejection, when a person accepts himself as he is, he does not care about the opinions of others and his priority is to enjoy the moment, it is when he is more authentic and spontaneous, because in this way he has managed to eliminate fear.