When we lose something or someone behind pain, confusion, and pride, there is a lesson that in itself will heal us. As difficult as it is, we can all and must learn from losses.
The conception of loss is tied to fanciful interpretations of our ego. Depending on how we relate to ourselves, we will see loss as a bad blow of fate or as an additional situation to live and learn. Charles Dickens, an English writer and novelist, once said, “I learn from every failure what I need to learn. “
- No one is prepared for hard-to-bear experiences.
- Losses and failures prepare us for it.
- Losses make us more complete and integral people.
- Teaching us part of life.
- Although our egos have hopes oriented towards other aspirations.
All people will go through losses of family, friends, colleagues and not facing or not wanting to accept this situation is the real problem, we know that these events will happen and when they happen, we will learn something from them. Lessons will be valuable and painful, no doubt.
“The real way to win is not always to want to win
Suffering is an aspect of life that cannot be eradicated, because the influence of fate that plays bad pasts or death cannot be isolated, without them life would not be complete. Therefore, the pain of losing family and loved ones is a pain that is part of the process of life, without it life would not be life, in these cases acceptance is the secret so that the natural pain of these losses does not become a continuous and prolonged suffering that will lead us to a state of misfits.
In the wonderful book “In Search of Meaning,” Viktor Frankl shows us the loss of a more humanistic and adaptive point of view. The way man accepts his destiny and all the suffering he causes gives a deeper meaning to his life. Even in the most difficult circumstances, he manages to maintain his courage, dignity and generosity. But you can also forget your human dignity and become the most destructive animal.
It is often precisely an exceptionally difficult external situation, the loss of a family member, the end of a relationship, which gives human beings the opportunity to grow spiritually, to transcend their limits, who loses faith in the future is condemned, abandons himself. and becomes the object on which physical and mental apathy is based.
The only thing we can’t lose is ourselves, that’s what we should and can do in the first place.
“Tell me and I will forget, teach and remember, get involved and learn. -Benjamin Franklin-
Everything we learn by losing someone or something is not positive, we must also learn from the negative side that leaves us loss, for example, at the end of relationships, loss leaves an almost unforgettable mark on the ego, which continues to strike even when feelings are no longer on fire. Therefore, we must learn from the wrong side of loss and focus on how good it is after that situation.
“I learn from every loss, despite the pain
From our birth, we learn to own and be close to what we love to find safety, however few people give us advice on what to do or feel in case of loss or separation of a loved one. The pain that accompanies the loss of a loved one, a relationship, a hope or something material are the attachments and fears that we build or generate throughout our lives.
To learn from losses by adapting to them, overcoming them, and strengthening them from this situation, it is good to look those who may have resurfaced in our lives at that time in the eye. In addition, the most important thing we identificar. es all the learning that loss offers us, to regain strength and desire to move forward.
“Being smart means learning losses and experience.