When a person is in trouble, with a problem, we usually help them, especially if you are a close person, a friend, a family member, etc. , but often the help we offer can become an obstacle, in many cases, our help is not necessary, in fact, it is totally useless.
When should we avoid this kind of assistance?
- It tells an old story that a man found the cocoon of a butterfly lying in the way.
- Thought he was in danger and then took him home to protect this little life that was about to be born.
- The next day.
- He realized that the Cocoon had a small hole.
- Then he sat down to look at him and could see how there was a little butterfly struggling to get out of there.
The small insect’s effort was titanic. Even though I tried, over and over again, I couldn’t get out of the cocoon. There came a time when the butterfly seemed to have given up. I was silent. It was as if he had given up.
Then the man, concerned about the fate of the butterfly, took a pair of scissors and gently broke the cocoon from both sides, wanted to facilitate the exit of the little insect. And so it was. Finally, the butterfly came out. However, in doing so, his body was quite swollen and his wings were too small, as if they were bent.
The man waited a long time, assuming it was a temporary situation, imagined that the butterfly would soon deploy its wings and fly, but that did not happen. The insect continued to spin and died.
The man did not know that the butterfly’s struggle to get out of its cocoon was an indispensable step to strengthen its wings, in this process the fluids of the insect’s body pass to the wings and become a butterfly ready to fly.
As we saw in fable, the easy does not always benefit us, it is often necessary to go through difficulties that strengthen us and help us, on many occasions, as in the case of the butterfly, save our lives.
We must see effort as a good thing, which helps us to improve ourselves; and not as something that blocks us and prevents us from moving forward. In life we go through a series of “tests” that, if passed, make us better, allow us to evolve.
For example, babies. If we don’t allow the baby to fall when he learns to walk, if we never let him go, he probably won’t learn to walk. Falling is not bad; on the contrary, it is a metaphor for life. And we see that the baby always recovers from his falls, until in the end he manages to balance and not fall. It is the reward of effort, and it is necessary to allow people to defend themselves.
As in fable, helping sometimes means that we don’t help, but quite the opposite, when someone goes through a difficult time and breaks down in tears, people tend to go after them and ask them what happened (perhaps honestly, perhaps out of curiosity to know why) Few people tend to sit down and not run after them Who has the best attitude?
When we feel bad, we have to be alone for a while, this does not mean that there is no one around, but that whoever is there respects this space and lets their pain flow. a friend, a sister, another family member, without saying anything, accompanying her in her pain, being by your side when she needs your hug, so that when she needs to talk you don’t have to look for yourself. sensiber thing to do.
We need to understand that there are things we should not do for others, and that there are situations where the struggle is ours; no one can get through us. Overcoming obstacles will make us stronger, more confident and safer. That every effort has its reward. So let’s not look for the easy way out, because if we want a certain thing it will cost us something and we just have to go our way, no one should replace us for this purpose.