In the face of any type of activity, material or relational, when something seems safe and safe, interest is lost, the spark of interest is to know that something is not taken for a fact, that it is lucky to have it, but that it must be maintained.
When we know that nothing is safe and secure, we will value things and relationships much more.
Imagine an excellent footballer, who always has to play and has been a team player for years.
His coach pampered and admired him so much that he knew he would always trust him, that certainty of knowing that you have your place secured can make you lose a little interest and the euphoria of playing, something that has always fascinated you.
On the other hand, think of a player who is not always a starter and never knows if he will have a chance to play. When you’re kicked out, you’ll enjoy the game a lot more, because you enjoy those moments than knowing it won’t always be tuned in.
The same goes for work. A person who has worked comfortably for years and who likes his bosses, will see his position as very safe, and therefore his motivation will be much less than that of a person who does not have so much stability, because every day will be a challenge and I will be grateful to have a job.
Rich people who don’t have to fight to make money and have fun will have less enthusiasm when they buy something they love than someone who has to save for a while to indulge in this beautiful gift.
When you get this right after so much effort, you’ll appreciate it much more than someone who always gets what they want effortlessly.
The habit and the security of knowing that you can satisfy all your whims will make the interest and enthusiasm much less than that of the person who has to struggle to buy your things.
In developed countries, there are things that don’t excite people, such as soap, such as notebooks, pens, etc.
All these things may not generate interest or euphoria, because we think they are right, they are available and we do not value them as much as another object of greater value that is not so true in our lives.
If we took a person from a developing country for a few days in this new context, we would see how happy they would be with only a notebook and a pen, she would have that interest, because for that person they are not good objects, nor easy to obtain .
Who has never seen the typical couple in whom one of us is extremely entrenched in the relationship?If the person shows their love in excess and how much they need the other, there is a risk that this will be interpreted as very safe and safe. , and that each other’s interest will fall accordingly.
We value those who value themselves the most
There is no problem in showing love, but in a balanced way, proving that we are independent and that we want and choose to be with our partner, but we are not completely dependent on it.
Couples who continually show their love, come together at all times, give themselves frequently, over-tie themselves and have no life of their own, become dependent on each other and do not know what to do with life alone, contribute to these attitudes losing all interest in them.
Nothing that’s too easy will generate interest. We must value ourselves, have a clean life, and show that we choose to share our lives with others, but we are not dependent.
Images courtesy of Jonathan Kos-Read and Paula Anddrade