What comes out of your heart does not always reach the hearts of others, we all go through this at some point in our lives: to do something for someone with great affection and to receive only indifference in return, it is as if it were goodness, instead of speaking a universal language, has been lost in strange dialects.
In this case, we are not only talking about the dissonance between what you give and what you receive next, we also mean the feeling of desolation that fills the heart that does not see, that does not feel or perceive what others do. We know that love is invisible, but if others do not perceive it through our actions, it is as if somehow nothing makes sense.
- Some behavioral and business scientists tell us that kindness is actually a disadvantage to social success.
- One way or another.
- The noble person who always acts honestly will experience many disappointments in this complex river of competitiveness that defines our modern world.
“If a heart is great, no ingratitude closes it, no indifference tires it. “Leo Tolstoy?
This is something we all know. However, despite this, many of us choose to continue to act in this way. Because kindness, doing things with your heart, is a personal value worth investing time and effort in. However, we cannot deny it: disappointments make us suffer.
It hurts us not to feel recognized, because no one acts selfishly when he expects his partner, family or supposed best friend to realize these small acts that we do with love, why love sometimes requires renunciation, and this concession is also done sincerely. , even if unfortunately the hearts of others are distracted, thinking of something else, listening to other channels?
When someone does something with the heart, it harmonizes several dimensions; values one’s identity, reciprocity, desire to promote the well-being of others, joy and enthusiasm; the person who acts with kindness should feel rewarded, because all of His efforts to do good really work. Your goal has a useful purpose, but it’s not always like that.
There seems to be no congruence between what is done and what is received: sometimes it is an injustice that hurts us, we could give many examples. You could talk about this man who in the past fought hard for his children and who is now rewarded with loneliness, would also be a good example of this teenager who seeks to integrate his group of peers with respect, affection and closeness. , and is greeted with taunts and insults.
Can’t we forget the partner who deals with the details, who puts the happiness of the person he loves at the top of the list of priorities, who cares, who he builds, who he invests?, if none of this is seen, if none of this is valued, is because that love is not good for you, it is a simulation of a love that needs to be reformulated , or perhaps discarded.
Anyone who does things with their heart and is not recognized ends up living on their island of solitude. One way or another, we end up looking a little prosperous, the character?Storm? From William Shakespeare, someone who, after being wounded by adversity and betrayal, ends up being held on a desert island in the company of his daughter, in a magical, peaceful and spiritual world, where, inevitably, the only protagonist remains sadness.
Tolstoy said in his time: ingratitude does not close a great heart, no indifference tires you, we will probably feel alone, however sometimes acting honestly has a price, and if that price is a disappointment, we will have to accept it. It is always better to be yourself than to live with the incongruity of going against one’s own roots, of being who you really are.
To survive in this complex world and in the day-to-day life of our relationships, we must integrate a series of “anchors” into our lives. Emotional and cognitive skills that we can use to avoid further suffering. Goodness is not synonymous with naivety, but of the courage of those who are faithful to what their heart says.
The art of loving well? Are you wise and do you understand the small details, the ones offered to you from the bottom of your heart?