What is the reason why there are people who continually make destructive criticism?What can be the underlying motivation for this behavior?What’s missing inside and you have to fill it with the outside?Here may be the secret of the critics.
A Wake Forest University study has shown that people who make destructive criticism are actually more unhappy and at increased risk of depression, as was also demonstrated in another recent study: this research revealed that experiences of destructive criticism, rejection, and humiliation are treated in the same part of the brain responsible for regulating the feeling of pain.
- If we correctly analyze the above sentence.
- We realize that critics are often the most dissatisfied people in their own lives.
- People who need to “lower the outside to elevate the interior”.
- People who are not satisfied with the success of others.
- People who prefer to put faults to propose solutions.
- Negative or empty people with low self-esteem.
“A positive perception of other people indicates the satisfaction of our own lives. “Dustin Wood
What we criticize in others says more about ourselves than others. When we talk about others, we actually project aspects of ourselves outward; those who criticize, in this case, project aspects of their personality or behavior that they do not accept and see in themselves, but in the previous ones.
That’s why healthy people with good self-esteem don’t continually criticize because they’re quiet inside, they know each other and they know what’s in them that they don’t like and that’s why they work indoors and not just outdoors. -The esteem and a healthy relationship with yourself determine our relationship with others.
So what can we do? Every time we see something in others that irritates us, hurts us, disturbs us, we have to identify the reason for this feeling, why does it affect us?, why can’t we tolerate it?Why don’t I like being with that person? This can allow us to know a new part of us that we didn’t know before.
“Each of us can only see what is in our hearts. If you don’t find anything good in the places you’ve been, can’t you find anything else here or somewhere else?. – P ball do Osis-
Before we criticize, we have to ask ourselves: will this comment help, do we add information, advice or anything that is valuable to the other person?If you don’t want to add anything, why do we want to reduce the rest, how much of this behavior do we tolerate in our behavior, what is really behind this criticism?
And finally, before criticizing, it would be perfect to use empathy; Before making a subjective comment, ideally think first like the other, because there are two different points and two versions of the story that can completely change What reason led you to do it?How does my comment affect me?
Criticism, when born of a healthy inner person, adds and improves things; on the contrary, when they come from anger, resentment, envy or unhappiness, they become negative and, at the same time, destructive.