? What would have happened if ???
How many times in our lives have we asked ourselves this question?Certainly more than we should, since we have probably made more than one decision without considering the consequences of the decision, nor considering them, but without the clarity that we would like these.
So take the time you need, because what happens thereafter will be the only option.
When are we forced to choose between two paths?What job to follow, what type of job to choose or which destination to choose for vacation travel?there comes a time when one of us ceases to exist as an option. And it happens just when we make the decision. That’s why we need to evaluate what we think is important for our future, because it will have repercussions in one way or another.
Once we have chosen one of the paths, we ask ourselves the question “what would have happened if”, but it only serves to imagine the life that, in fact, no longer belongs to us. And isn’t it true that at some point, you can even hurt us?Then try to make the decision that makes you happier, because that will be the only option in the future.
“Thinking serenely, very serenely, is better than making desperate decisions. -Franz Kafka-
It’s normal to be afraid when certain decisions have to be made, but that won’t stop us from choosing the best option: living. Whatever happens, what happens is based on the attitude we put into what we do; will, decision and hope are fundamental to what we want.
Sometimes circumstances haunt us, especially when we feel responsible for something that escapes us. Examples of these circumstances are common, such as being in the wrong place at the wrong time.
However, these are things that don’t always belong to us: let’s call it coincidence, luck or destiny, the fact is that we can’t be responsible for that, let’s not forget that we can imagine the future, but we can barely know it. What we think is happening is only one possibility among many.
This is more than a reason not to ask ourselves the question “what would have happened if”, since in these cases we cannot be responsible for what we have not decided, however inevitable, and even if we sometimes wish to travel back. in time to change some of the facts of our lives, we should not stick to what we would like it to be, because there was no option to do so.
“None of us know the possible paths that our lives could and should have taken. Everything’s probably fine. There are secrets that must remain hidden forever. -Liane Moriarty-
What happens, then, is the only thing that could have happened, especially when the circumstances are greater than us. Yes, it’s true, we can change things we don’t feel comfortable with, but it happens after we’ve experienced reality, and never in advance.
In short, it is good to carefully and decisively evaluate what we want in life, and to be aware that there are still things beyond our control, so it is better to learn to live with our own circumstances, both those that we have created ourselves and those who have ended up being part of who we are.
Sometimes it is inevitable to look back and wish that something has changed: it is also good, because it shows that we are able to see what we have done wrong or where we have made a mistake.
“When we choose an option from many, all the paths we don’t choose go out like candles, as if they never existed. -Philip Pullman-
However, accepting that things happen in a certain way is synonymous with emotional growth, always looking forward, accepting your mistakes and avoiding them instantly in the future: what really happens is your life, and it’s the only way to get closer to happiness.