We have a natural desire to feel emotionally connected with others, it is with this intention that we count, and in exchanges that are relationships can arise several different interpretations, so many misunderstandings are created, however, it is not our responsibility.
Misunderstandings arise because interpretation is necessary for communication and the fact that each person is different and unique, being able to interpret the same situation in a completely different way, which generates problems, discussions and even emotional breakdowns.
- Sometimes others do not understand us.
- Even if we explain something a thousand times.
- This does not mean that the person is bad.
- Stupid or indifferent.
- Is just another person and has a different way of thinking.
- Different from ours.
It is natural for us to seek to reaffirm our feelings, opinions and beliefs, but these emotional needs should not be exaggerated and, of course, should not hinder the intention of reaching an understanding and promoting good interpretations.
For this, it is important that we understand that in our understanding we must consider that there can always be pride, different life situations, fatigue, mistrust, interpretation, feelings and all kinds of emotions, beliefs and thoughts, both circumstantial and more fixed and fixed. stable for one person.
Putting the whole puzzle together with all this in mind can be complicated, so at first, the hardest thing in this regard is to maintain respect and consideration for others, that is, to be firm and maintain dignity at the same time. while we try to undo a knot that has been made in a relationship.
The strength and possibility of being upset and misunderstanding is proportional to the degree of emotional involvement we have with the people who are part of a communication, that is, the closer the relationship, the stronger the relationship, the more likely it is the interpretation we have. can be drawn from our words will be important to us.
Similarly, the other person will also tend to be more attentive to your words, the stronger the link between the relationship, depending on the expectations and interests of that communication and your personal mood.
At this point, we must not fall into the trap and, of course, we must not allow anyone to make us feel bad about the unrealistic expectations that have been placed on us, we must pay special attention to it, because there are people who often complain about everything and take us to their world, making us victims of their personal storms.
It may also be that, because of personal situations, someone is more vulnerable than usual and that with our comments, words or actions, we touch on a sensitive point and compromise the routine stability of communication.
As we see, there are several factors to consider in a relationship, it is impossible to control everything, mainly because we change and are ambivalent, it is human nature. So even our interpretations are the most varied.
However, regardless of the conversation in a relationship, we must be responsible only for what is within our reach and analyze where we can improve and what we are doing well.
In this sense, we cannot afford to become hostages to our internal conflicts, nor to negative feelings that can generate various misinterpretations, so if someone approaches us with negative behavior or commentary, with bad intentions, we must take a deep breath and offer our worldview as clearly as possible.
“Acting well-intentioned, assertive and calm is the best way to create and maintain good communication.
In this way, we will convey the message that we take responsibility for what we say, we will always try to present our ideas in the best possible way, but the interpretations are beyond our control, being the responsibility of the one who creates them.