Anger is an emotion that we feel intensely in us, it can generate in us, among other somatic sensations, a blockage in the stomach or a knot in the throat, and we probably do not know how to deal with it properly.
In fact, when we feel anger, something happens in our nervous system, in our blood and, therefore, throughout our body, with this emotion our hormones and neurotransmitters move, mobilizing for action, however, we must learn from it. so we don’t hurt ourselves.
- Anger makes us release energy.
- Externalize it because in us it becomes a kind of pulse wave.
- When we do not open a channel to evaporate we can do us a lot of damage.
- Contaminating the rest of the emotions.
- Thoughts and behaviors that we generate from that moment on.
If we do not resolve this painful emotion, we will feel blocked, suffer and also end up feeling frustration, helplessness and helplessness, like all emotions, we are responsible for it and no one is to blame for being so, despite associating anger or projecting it onto someone.
Anger is an emotion that is beyond our control, that wants to come out, and that is why sometimes we feel that we cannot control it, often born motivated by someone who does or says something that bothers us.
On many occasions we will express it against the person who provoked this emotion, behaving impulsively and without control over our words and actions, however, this does not solve what really provoked anger, causing conflicts and prejudices that we will probably regret later.
At other times, anger is against ourselves. This happens when triggered by a situation and not so much by other people, it is a direct attack on our person, blaming us for the uncomfortable or unpleasant situation.
In any case, the anger directed at ourselves also does not liberate us and will make us feel even worse, far from dispelling anger, will grow in us, making us feel overwhelmed by so many unresolved and self-destructive emotions.
“Anger is very bad for everyone, but especially for the man who lives it. “
? Leo Tolstoy?
Anger is destructive when we don’t know how to fix it, if we let ourselves be dragged impulsively we hurt ourselves and others, instead, if we remove it as if it were a radioactive residue, it will come to life inside. we grow over time and damage our image.
We have to learn how to fix it and manage it so that it does not destroy us, however, it is more important to know where it comes from and why it feels, thus discovering the true reason for this anger. only when we know this emotion deeply can we cure it by banishing ourselves from within.
“No matter what doctors say, human rage is often the trap of the enemy. “
? Gabriel García Márquez?
Anger always tells us that we have personal dissatisfaction, something unresolved that can come even from childhood, to discover its true origin it would be necessary to observe in what situations it appears and in what it remains asleep.
It is likely that all situations have something in common, as this emotion usually includes dissatisfaction, pain, unfulfilled expectations, feelings of inferiority, abandonment, frustration, lack of support, pursuit of perfection, etc.
If we look at our anger, it will show us where we should work, perhaps to strengthen ourselves, accept failure, respect the way others are, or feel satisfied, only then will we stop feeling this unpleasant emotion.
“Take care of your own emotions and never underestimate them. “
? Robert Henri?
It is important to know how to properly manage and manage anger when it is already in you, it is necessary to avoid personal and other injuries and, at the same time, obtain and feel the relief of being able to express it. to do with emotional intelligence, that is, to know how to express themselves, to solve and to face without hurting anyone.
To do this, look for a physical activity that allows you to “externalize anger”, and during physical exertion imagine that you throw away the anger that makes you sick in the trash feeling the relief of exercise. You can also kick, hit the pillow or even throw stones and see how your anger ends when you’ve completed these activities.
You can also choose a safe place to scream and express yourself without anyone listening to you, you can say aloud anything that helps you free yourself knowing that no one will receive you, after that you will feel more relieved of the discomfort that lived within you.
Don’t forget to look for the source of anger by learning from what you have to teach. Learning from your emotions is a way to grow. To know how to control it is to express it without hurting or hurting anyone and transforming the anger of learning, is to heal from the deepest internal wounds.
Every day we will learn if we take the time to observe and recognize our emotions, it is important to learn how to manage them and learn from them, with their origin and reason, so that they no longer cause us discomfort.
“When I say control emotions, I mean emotions that are really stressful and disabling. Feeling emotions is what enriches our lives.
? Daniel Goleman?