How many times have you heard that a close couple has separated because “love is over” can really end this feeling or we don’t do enough to preserve it?Do we neglect love too much and don’t realize what their worst enemies are?
Without a doubt, routine and monotony are two of the reasons couples fight, separate or divorce, however, we can also use both in our favor and improve the bond with that person we love and are committed to.
- Imagine you’re a detective investigating a murder.
- Is the deceased called in question?Love? And the main suspect in the crime is the “routine.
- “You start looking for evidence and realize that Love trusted Routine a lot until she stabbed him in the back.
- That said.
- Because doing the same thing every day is very common.
- In our lives.
- And therefore also in the life we lead with our companions.
- And then.
- What ends up causing the rupture is not the death of love ?.
- But the intrusion of the routine for two.
- The worst enemy of love is undoubtedly monotony.
- Or in other words.
- Boredom.
- Always do the same things.
- Go to the same places (or not go anywhere).
- Talk about the same topics.
- Watch the same movies.
- Go on vacation to the same destination year after year.
- Etc.
Routine is the starting point for other problems in the relationship, such as infidelity, so we do not intend to justify the person who deceives your partner, but to establish one of the reasons that facilitate it.
Think for a moment: what do we usually do when we get bored?We’re looking for something else that’s fun. Well, something similar happens with love and routine, if we always receive and offer the same thing and it bothers us, it will be easier to want to seek pleasure elsewhere.
The couple have faced many storms over the years. Monotony is one of the strongest storms but, unlike other problems, it appears slowly.
But on the other hand, did you know there’s a “good side”?Routine? Of course, as another popular saying goes over glasses, we should consider the glass half full and not half empty. Monotony in marriage has always been considered a negative thing, and it doesn’t always have to be.
First, I listed the good aspects of the couple’s routine
? Safety: The feeling of being protected when you always do the same can be a good thing, because fear and uncertainty make us act strangely, under pressure, many young couples fear the routine of always dining in the kitchen or shopping on Saturday mornings. In fact, no one should suffer it, but learn to find happiness in “safe”
? Knowledge: If you always do different things, when are you going to sit down and discuss what your partner (and you) likes?Each of the things we do as a routine will show us who we have next to us, what the other thinks or feels and that’s really good.
Monotony is bad when, due to chores or the daily bustle of events, we forget about the person who sleeps next to us every night, it means that what happens outside the couple is what destroys, but it also depends on how let’s deal with every situation.
For example, every day it is the woman who prepares dinner when she arrives from work and that means not asking her partner how the day has gone, or the husband is in charge of picking up the children at school but when she gets home, he is in front of the TV or the computer, they are the things that gradually damage the relationship , like drops that fall little by little on the stone.
Attention! It is not a problem if these activities or habits occur a few times a week, but when it is a task performed in the same way from Monday to Sunday, for months and months (or even years).
Then we must differentiate and determine what kind of routine we want in our lives, whether it is the positive that helps us forge a good relationship or the negative that destroys and “kills love”. It’s your call.