“Freedom means responsibility, that’s why most men are so afraid of it. (George Bernard Shaw)
Codependency is a psychological condition in which one person is emotionally attached to another, that is not a positive thing.
- Why can’t you make a decision for yourself.
- Why do you need to control everything and when something slips away the world falls out of your mind.
- If that person is absent.
- What do you do?A codependent person has each of these fears.
You want to know if you’re a codependent?
The co-pendent person lives for others, he abandons himself. It is based on the decisions of others, feeds on the opinions of other people and does not value itself. For the co-pendent person, others are more important. Questions like, what would you do for me?He can’t think for himself.
As we have seen, the co-pendent person always needs someone to make decisions, alive and even happy, as he cannot live with that, he will become controlling and manipulative to keep everything and everyone under his control. I don’t want anyone to leave you, you can’t do without him!
The co-dependent person cannot face the world and life alone, even doubts how to live without relying emotionally on someone, how do I do it?It’s impossible for her.
Your insecurity and fear reduce your ability to make decisions. Confronting the shoulderless life on which relying would cause you such terror and anxiety that you are looking for someone who meets that need.
If you feel attached to someone who is the center of your world, the reason for your existence and without which you cannot develop in life, is it possible to change that?, is it possible to overcome co-dependence?The answer is yes.
Why do you think your life isn’t worth it?What’s keeping you from relying on someone? Look inside for what makes you feel inferior, think about it and think about whether it really is or not. Why don’t we do it again?
As a co-pendent person, your thoughts will be filled with phrases like “I don’t know,” “I can’t,” “He’ll know how to do it. “Eliminate these thoughts once and for all.
Nobody knows everything, nobody knows how to do everything. But there’s one thing we can all do: learn, don’t you know?So I’ll learn to do that, what can’t I do?Have you really tried? Don’t seek help, don’t lean on anyone else, try to be independent.
There’s a lot of hard stuff going on for all of us! The important thing is to know how to support them and overcome them for yourself. You should not think about supporting yourself with someone else, as that support may become unstable. Are we looking for another, more solid support? No, nothing will be better than being sure of our own support.
You know what stands out, your assets! So, what are you waiting for to explore them?Work on it to learn to appreciate yourself and not depend on anyone.
Look for a source of joy every day. No matter what others do, what you do is important, stop admiring others as a model, each one is unique. Make your life unique, don’t be codependent!
Persisting, it’s hard, yes, but not impossible. Go straight ahead. You won’t always have someone to lean on, and when that happens, will the world fall out of your mind?No, are you strong, smart, responsible? You don’t have to look at anyone, you don’t need anyone to live, live your life, get better, be unique. That your life depends on no one but yourself.
Are you a co-descendant? If that is the case, I hope that this and other advice can help, however, the best help is your own will. Don’t let anyone depend on you! Discover the freedom not to be codependent.