After all, what is the role of grandparents in the family?If we think about our childhood, we will surely remember that there is one figure who plays an important role in it: that of our grandparents. They were always available to us, ready to play anything or buy candy or toys when our parents didn’t want them.
We love them. But things change when we have our own children and it’s our parents who become grandparents. Is the situation changing and can the role of grandparents in the family become a source of conflict?Do they do more harm than good or is it the other way around?One of the most common problems between grandparents and parents is the application of limits. In many cases, it is very difficult for both sides to reach consensus.
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- Two of the most rewarding experiences in life are being a grandchild or a grandparent.
- ” Donald A.
- Norberg?.
We’ve all heard parents educate and grandparents wid, haven’t we?The reality is that grandparents are generally less demanding than parents and interpret children’s inappropriate behavior from a more relaxed perspective.
It is common for grandparents to think that they would raise their grandchildren differently than their own children do, on the one hand grandparents who from their experience do not agree with the ideas of the little ones, on the other hand, there are the parents, who do not accept the interference of grandparents in the education of their children and feel that their authority is questioned.
“It is natural that we often felt closer to distant generations than previous generations. “Igor Stravinsky?
The reality is that this overprotection of grandparents should not lead children to disobey their parents, but it is important that parents and grandparents speak candidly, parents should make it clear that grandparents should help raise their grandchildren, without questioning the established guidelines for the education of children. Children.
In fact, if we can get parents and grandparents to see themselves as allies rather than opponents, children’s education will benefit greatly, first, because older adults will be able to mediate in conflicts that arise (as usual) between parents and children.
If grandparents can take a position that balances both sides, they can be a very practical source of problem solving for everyone. The role of grandparents in the family in the face of family conflicts can be that of “facilitators of communication”.
But not only that, they can also bring peace of mind and a new perspective to the problem: they can propose different alternatives of solution and make parents and children respect the agreement, somehow they can act as a guarantee of such agreements.
“What children need most are the things grandparents offer in abundance. They give unconditional love, affection, patience, humor, comfort, life lessons. And most of all, treats?. ? Rudy Giuliani?
The role of grandparents in the family goes further, it is undeniable that they can become a tremendous emotional support for your children and grandchildren, when you embark on the adventure of parenthood it can cause negative emotions: raising children is not an easy task, or at least it’s not always easy.
Being able to have the experience and advice of the elderly can give us extra day-to-day safety with our children, so that this relationship gives us the support we need is important that it is based on dialogue, mutual understanding and empathy, so that education guidelines are followed, as well as what everyone can give and receive.
On the other hand, it is undeniable that grandparents make a positive contribution to the emotional development and self-perception of the child, they are an irreplaceable source of tolerance and affection, in addition, they help us to discover who we are when they tell us stories about our family. They also develop our sense of responsibility, because they are the first people we learn to deal with.
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