You may have heard of polylove, a growing trend in the world that is strengthened every day, for many it is a real lack of shame, a legitimization of polygamy, for others it is an expression that ends once and for all. all to the hypocrisy of fidelity.
There are people who have never been able to engage faithfully in a relationship. They know they sometimes hurt, but it seems impossible to love a person. No matter how hard they try, they’ll never be able to fix their eyes on one person. Are they bad?
- “Promiscuity is a genetic bondage.
- And neither monogamy nor polygamy has solved the intense sexual compulsion that shames the human being since they organized society with punishing moral norms and rigid ethical criteria.
- -José Luis Rodríguez Jiménez-.
Anyone who practices polylove says no. It is necessary to distinguish between those who like to play with the feelings of others and those who sincerely love more than one person at a time, this position is controversial, but the truth is that, although there are no statistics yet, we know that more and more people are in addition to this trend.
Polylove supporters do not consider themselves unfaithful, but quite the opposite. They waste their immense sincerity and loyalty to their loved ones, they often have many couples, one in the physical world and others in the virtual world, they define the the same as a new and avant-garde way of understanding love and being happier.
They also argue that loyalty, in most cases, is nothing more than hypocrisy. We know there are thousands of couples who end up getting divorced for infidelity. We also know that behind many stable marriages, there are also stories involving third parties. why they believe that the natural state of the human being is not to have a romantic relationship, but several.
For polyamors, infidelity hurts. However, having multiple romantic relationships at the same time, with everyone’s consent, is a sincere and healthy agreement, which ensure that monogamy is sustained solely on the basis of prejudice and guilt, but not on true love.
Many people who define themselves as monogamous stay that way for a while, this is the reality we see daily, some people may not participate in love triangles, but they will not stay with a person for the rest of their lives.
The relationship exclusively between two people was an invention of romanticism. Our human ancestors were completely polygamus. Perhaps there was more stability in relationships where there were children, but this was not understood as an exclusive commitment.
Monogamy was established socially to properly organize the issue of heritage and heritage, marriage was essentially a legal contract, which guaranteed ownership of the common offspring, however, at first, this did not imply an oath of eternal love, this only became a little more popular. Two centuries ago, when love began to be idealized.
There is little research on this, but those who have already testified in various media ensure that polylove works much better than monogamy. The secret is in the trust, sincerity and acceptance of the different relationships that each can have. Aren’t you talking? Couples in pairs, but in “multiple couples”.
Those who believe in polyamory guarantee that the love they feel for each of their partners is completely sincere, each of these loves has its own dynamic and its own way of expressing itself, those who think that it is simply a matter of having sex with Several people are wrong, on the contrary, in this type of relationship, there is a strong emotional commitment with each of the partners.
In Eve Rikcet’s book “More Than Two”, one of the people who lives a polyamory and gives her testimony says: “I have been involved in long-term relationships for decades. Are there simpler ways to have sex, if that Is it what counts? Similarly, another respondent added: “Our relationships are much more demanding. ” Therefore, polyamory is not an exercise in unlimited pleasure, but a different attitude towards love that comes from the heart.
Researchers on the subject say it is time to recognize polyamor as an option, just as homosexual love has been recognized, it may be necessary to invent new options for legal unions to involve more than two people, it may also be necessary to encourage a great debate in all societies to determine whether it is time for us to start looking at the world of romantic relations in another way , or at least not judge the choices others choose knowing their consequences.