What’s behind the silence? Confusions, truths, word games, illusions, dreams, lies, secrets, concerns, fears, excuses, imagination or perhaps. . . nothing important.
Our whole mind is capable of thinking and what we don’t say is what we close.
- Remember that we have about 70.
- 000 thoughts a day.
- And that from all this information.
- We select the ones that are most relevant to us.
It is this incredible capacity of our memory that makes us create beautiful stories and that also makes us vulnerable.
What thoughts do we choose? Or rather, are they all really relevant?
“Are there few things as deafening as silence?
? Mario Benedetti?
When we think, most of the time we find ourselves silent, although internally we have no continuous noise from our thoughts, among them are the automatic thoughts that are the ones we use to quickly interpret and explain the situations of our daily lives.
These are the phrases that come out of our inner voice and give us an explanation of what is happening in our environment, what we interpret from the actions of others and even how we are.
These are the phrases that quickly come to mind and that, most of the time, we do not expose to others, we do not wonder if they are really based or if, on the contrary, they are just speculations that we do not wonder about. have sufficient data and are based solely on ‘smoke’.
It may seem less elaborate, but these thoughts come from our deepest view of the world: the basic patterns.
Patterns are the beliefs and rules by which we establish our values, which we build throughout our lives.
They are formed with our life experiences, in them everything we think of what we see with the education we receive is maintained.
We are people who are used to explaining everything, because we do not like uncertainty, that we cannot control.
Although we can only see ten percent of reality, “this void with our own explanation based on how” the world should be.
Thoughts like, “If a person like that shuts up, is it because he hides something bad?”Or ‘Who doesn’t consent?’ These are some of the phrases we hear in our lives, if we use them constantly and without backup data, we are very likely to be wrong.
We’re not mind readers, we’re not even psychologists
We rely on data that can confirm whether what we think is reality, or whether it is only irrational beliefs that make us feel bad or that we accuse others of their supposed intentions.
Handling silence is harder than handling speech.
The best thing is that it is this person who communicates to us what is happening to him, but always respecting his right not to want to communicate some of his thoughts. We have the right to privacy and intimacy.
If you are the person who wants to remain silent, make sure that you do not hide information that may affect others, that is, there are things that we have to tell, even if it is difficult, because they are directly related to the people we love. and those secrets can limit your own freedom.
If this information is discovered sooner or later by a third party or in life circumstances, the blow and problem in a relationship will be much worse.
We are just interpreters of reality, our reality. It’s not the same as the others.
Yes, silence can do a lot of damage. But this can’t hide anything important, just imagination, and it’s infinite.
Look, my son, be quiet. It is a rolling silence, a silence where valleys and echoes slide and tilt the fronts towards the ground.