Isn’t humanity curious? There are so many people who go through life, who run against the time, are immersed in the routine, busy doing thousands of things and, in their free time, stay in front of the TV, connected to Facebook or surrounded by people, noise and numb by alcohol and drugs. In this current of being and not being, you lose the essentials, that it is not outside, it is only inside.
Loneliness can be despairing for some people, who to be always accompanied sacrifice the quality of their relationships, often this fear of loneliness only reflects that, deep down, there is a fear of coming into contact with your most intimate emotions. , as they can end up being unpleasant or painful, so it is better to get distracted or live only external things.
- But if emotional needs are not heard and addressed.
- If we do not accept ourselves unconditionally.
- With our qualities and flaws.
- We will walk in life with a mask.
- Pretending to be what we are not to be accepted by others; acceptance that we reject.
The human being was not born as an emotional zombie, babies do not choose their emotions, feel them and simply express them, during the process of socialization the child can, unfortunately, be ignored, wounded, ridiculed or abused. The resource available to the child is to bury the pain he feels in his unconscious, for he always depends on others to feel worthy of love and respect.
As an adult, it is imperative that the person take responsibility for their emotional health and heal their wounds, as well as meet the needs of their inner child, otherwise they will experience an inner void and try to fill them with superficial relationships.
Thus, our main task is to learn to see, love and value what we have most precious: our essence. The more we learn to love ourselves, the greater the desire to share our love with others, for authentic love is expansive by nature. It is impossible to stop this expansive wave, so it is inevitable to want to share that love with others, but not by emptiness and mask, but by fullness and authenticity.
The reason for one relationship is to learn, grow, love, have fun and enjoy each other’s company. Ultimately, our real mission in this world is to expand our capacity to love ourselves and others. When we understand and live according to this, mission, we discover that true and unconditional love is the greatest treasure we can find.
There is no luxury, pleasure, fullness, possession or wealth that can replace the fullness of true unconditional love, yet we must begin by loving and accepting ourselves, loving oneself gives each member a romantic relationship of security and trust. they get each other’s love and even demand it, they share the love they have for themselves, ironically they give the other what they have always wanted for themselves, but which they had not been able to achieve before.
Self-harm and self-healing are some of the main causes of failure in couples, so learning to love yourself really helps heal relationships. Loving is the most wonderful thing, but you can’t give what you don’t feel. we learn to love ourselves, we cannot love our neighbor.