When starting a romantic relationship it is best to talk about some important aspects, especially to avoid unpleasant surprises in the future. That’s why it’s very good to open and define communication channels; In this way, you will establish the pillars so that they remain active throughout the relationship.
There are many important issues and it is best to clarify them at the beginning of the relationship, this will help you to know the person you are with, and also to see if there are differences that can be overcome or that are irreconcilable. I saw cases of couples separating because they did not clarify the problems that mattered most to them at the beginning of the relationship and that felt depressed, not only for the end of the relationship, but because they had not identified those differences before.
- If the other person loves you.
- While trying to convince you.
- You’re likely to hide something or try to show your best.
- Then it will show what it’s really like.
- And people don’t change (or at least they don’t change much!) If we speak frankly about certain problems.
- The premises of the relationship are more likely to be stronger and more sustainable.
“We will never be the ideal companion, the postcard, if we cannot accept that it is only in arithmetic that the two are born one over one. ” – Julio Cort-zar-
Talk about your worldview, your political and religious ideas, your work and life projects, for example, if you lived in another country. Also, even if it’s a little difficult and uncomfortable, talk about marriage and children, even you can talk about how you’d like to raise them, even if you don’t have to agree on everything. There may be questions in the conversation you haven’t even thought about so far.
Two other tips: this type of conversation is not only useful to get to know each other, but it can also be useful to get to know each other, on the other hand, it is important to be open and respectful when you have such conversations. conversation, but also sincere and consistent with what you think.
Sharing funny memories is a way to spend time together. First love, first drink, some nonsense, etc. Don’t be afraid to share painful or embarrassing memories, indicate if you’ve been abused or something that has marked you. make others feel safe to show their own.
Here you can take the opportunity to talk about past relationships, always with respect and only saying the necessary details. Betrayals are a sensitive topic, but it is important to address it. Starting a relationship by hiding information can be very damaging. You have suffered betrayal and if you have been unfaithful, it is important to talk to your partner about it and tell him the reasons and feelings for this situation.
Try to do it in a relaxed and private environment, as it is a delicate subject that can sometimes be uncomfortable, especially when the relationship begins and trust is not yet very strong, sex is an important part of the relationship and communication in this area. It is essential, so it is not a good idea to consider this topic as taboo.
Talk about your fantasies, what you like and don’t like, and also whether you want to try new things. Talking about sex can increase intimacy. It’s an intimate subject and it better be between you, and there’s always respect.
Say how much you earn and how much you spend each month, whether you save for something in particular or if you like to travel or go out to eat, etc. Also if you have savings or debts; It is important to talk about it so that the couple does not know and be disappointed, if you have or have had a legal problem it is important to talk about it and prevent these things from appearing to you by surprise.
When we launch a life project, all decisions (including those related to money, especially if it is money in common) must be made and made together, it is important that both agree with what they are going to do and that no one makes decisions. without consulting the other.
This is a very sensitive subject. I do not recommend that you share with your partner the opinions about your family or the conflicts you have with yours, I also do not recommend sharing the problems of the couple with your family, it is a private matter, the family will always be on your side and when the problem is resolved, you may suffer from the mistakes you have already forgiven.
It is essential to select the family information we share with our partner, as well as the couple information we share with our families, it is not usually necessary to lie, but to be selective and careful with the information we share.
Friends are another business, some couples think their partners spend a lot of time with their friends or that some friends have a bad influence. Talk about your friends and your partner’s, always with respect and don’t get in the uncomfortable. position of saying “my friends or my partner. ” Respect the time the person spends with their friends, try to find a balance and everything will be easier.
This has been a very important point from the beginning; Don’t avoid the guys for fear they’ll turn into a fight. Talking about feelings and sensations is a great starting point for open and sincere communication. Try to do it calmly and respectfully, without using words that might offend the other. The sentimental relationship and a life project require constant work, to express our needs, our desires and clarify, as soon as possible, aspects that we do not like.
These questions are fundamental at the beginning of a romantic relationship, but should not be considered as something closed and buried, it will be good to re-review these issues whenever there is a change or in case of doubt.