Feeling angry can sometimes be good. It remains an emotion that allows us to release the frustrations and all the rage contained in our body, it is an emotion that occurs when faced with difficulties, but we must be careful not to explode.
Getting angry is something that comes and goes, and it allows us to react in different ways to the same situation, for example, if I have borrowed a book, the annoyance can help me take the step to claim it and thus recover it.
- This does not necessarily mean shouting or showing that discontent when we want to recover what belongs to us.
- On the contrary.
- It is a controlled stimulus that allows us to take the step to claim it.
“If a person has no right to express his anger, not even to recognize him in himself,” does he end up, by mere extension, deprived of strength and control?-Carolyn Heilbrun-
Are you one of those people who knows how to express their anger, or do you keep it until you can’t do it anymore and there’s no other way out?
The healthiest is the first option, but if you can’t, we’ll share some keys today so you know what to do when you’re about to explode.
One of the consequences of not releasing rabies in small doses is that it accumulates, everything we suppress, what we do not say for fear of its reaction, everything we do not express and annoy us, we keep it, but we do not eliminate it.
It is very important to know that ignoring what bothers us will not make it disappear, we will always keep for ourselves everything we think, even if we are not aware of it.
For example, if I was bothered by a friend’s attitude, we might soon feel that the family situation is not the best and that we have problems at work due to stress; sooner or later, this will come to light.
Even if we think we don’t even remember what bothered us in our friend’s house, although the trigger is one thing, everything we’d kept before will come behind us.
When I lose control of myself, I’m not aware of what I’m doing, everything gets confusing and I often forget what I said and did during this loss of control.
It is here, when we explode, that we lose control of ourselves. Certainly, if you are one of those people, you will surprise others and even yourself with these reactions.
Probably, during these losses of control over yourself, you don’t even remember what you say or do, everything comes out of you without any control.
This makes you completely unpredictable. At any time it can explode, you don’t determine the time, it’s like a time bomb that will explode at any time.
It’s hard to determine when we’ll explode, but if we meet, we’ll know when we’ll lose control, even if it’s too late.
It’s better to learn how to get everything we’ve accumulated the moment we’re sorry, or at least not let this ball of emotion form that will sooner or later explode.
Thus, we can take into account the following tips that will make you think about this situation:
It’s important that you learn from your explosions, that you start taking out everything you know builds up and will be released at any time.
Think about solutions, but never believe that the solution is to ignore and wait to see what happens, this, as you know, will have a brilliant result.
In addition, when you are in a limiting situation, learn to escape, inertia, people will tell us or ask us to calm down, this will only increase our anger and blind us.
When I’m about to explode, I’d rather walk away and take a deep breath.
Start learning from these moments to start saying everything you think about each other, so you’ll feel better about yourself and avoid losing control, which can happen at very inappropriate times.