The most important changes begin to happen when we accept things as they are; both the acceptance of what life gives us and the acceptance of ourselves.
In our changing lives, there are many situations in which we have no choice but to accept things as they are given to us. What happens when we refuse to accept things as they are?
- Sometimes we resist change.
- Which is no longer part of our control; There is nothing we can do to prevent it.
- Because it is something that has already happened or is happening.
- Denial will only bring us suffering.
The clearest circumstances, where acceptance plays a fundamental role, are death, love and love.
How to deny death, how to deny a passion, how to deny lack of affection?Well, we try to deny these realities, against which we can do nothing if they happen.
These are not good or bad situations; these are specific human realities that are part of our lives; Whether they produce joy or sadness, emotion and intensity tell us how meaningful this experience is to us.
If you do not have the strength to impose your own conditions on life, you must accept the conditions it offers you. S. Eliot
Our tendency, when it comes to what is beyond our control, is to try to give an answer, to get an explanation that relieves us. We need to understand everything that’s going on in our lives.
We forget that everything we intend to understand will be the result of our interpretations and experiences, explanations that we want to make sense of, to finally convince ourselves and believe that this is our reality.
To be surprised, to be surprised, is to begin to understand
José Ortega y Gasset
We get perished in reason and words, when in reality all reality is within us; that’s how we feel, that’s the emotion we feel. To come to that feeling that our own body is responsible for showing us is to accept the reality of what is happening to us.
We usually go hand in hand with reasoning to explain certain problems such as those related to love; we ourselves erect barriers and barriers so as not to accept reality.
Understanding is a tabula rasa in which there is nothing written
When we bury those feelings that we do not want to respond to, so as not to immerse ourselves in sadness, we do so because we are afraid of being stopped and hurt; an evil that we believe we cannot bear and face, so we deny our experience, our existence.
We bury our essence, we are trapped by many emotions that must be released, we must live and experience.
When we do this, we forget an essential part of our humanity: by not accepting our vulnerabilities, we think we are above them.
The body is responsible for giving us relevant signals in the form of an alert, so at some point we decide to erase everything that we have stopped (anger, sadness, upset, anger, etc. ). By not doing so, our energy, in turn, remains blocked and, therefore, illness and disconnection with ourselves and our happiness appear.
Development and personal learning occur when we are willing to accept our feelings and emotions as they are, without passing them through the filter of reason, in a way that changes, suppresses and erases them.
We may consider that reason will have to provide an explanation of what is happening, but by remaining anchored, we divert attention from what we are living.
True learning occurs when we are willing to accept, to let each of the emotions that arise before each of the circumstances we go through feel.
This is how we transform ourselves by following the flow of life, for everything we challenge and do not want to accept will subject us to disconnection with ourselves, with all that this entails.
When we accept the inevitable facts of our lives, we can feel sadness with great intensity, but feeling it is exactly what frees us from it, to keep moving forward and give way to new emotions, experiences and experiences.
As we begin to accept what is happening to us, we begin to accept ourselves. Therefore, we are ready to forgive others and ourselves, to continue flowing into new experiences, to let energy flow, to feel alive.
Reason didn’t teach me anything. Everything I know has been given to me by the heart.
Léon Tolstoy