Choosing your own mask is the first voluntary human gesture and it is very lonely.
Clarice Lispector.
- Many people succeed.
- Are happy or have a seemingly perfect life.
- Is that really so? No.
- A lot of them seem to be something they’re not.
- This is called “putting on the mask.
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Depressed people who are optimistic, anxious people who are relaxed. People who wear a mask so others don’t see them as they really are. Do you want to know what masks we wear and their causes?Look down!
A controlling person in every way of his life can be someone who has been betrayed, in the face of this pain the person will develop a behavior that will allow him to ensure that everyone fulfills his promises, in this way you will avoid them. to betray you again.
The controller has a hidden side called insecurity, so controlling everything is paramount, even in an exaggerated way, the mask protects you from the pain of a new betrayal, while trying to prevent it from happening again.
A rigid person may have already suffered a situation of extreme injustice, in the face of this fact he becomes adamant, always in search of justice and the truthfulness of things.
A rigid person becomes a perfectionist. So much so that it becomes an obsessive attitude, but let’s put ourselves in your place!We do not like injustices, they confuse us, to have everything perfectly studied and stipulated will prevent injustice from knocking on the door, that is why the rigid do this.
A dependent person, perhaps, experiences intense pain with the feeling of abandonment, this injury causes someone to take off so as not to feel abandoned, this prevents any relationship from becoming serious and rejecting the idea of living with someone.
The pain of abandonment is terrible, the dependent person really isn’t!On the contrary, she suffers the most because she cannot, except depend on someone, trust that the people who are important to her will never abandon her.
The escaper refuses to be in company. She prefers loneliness, moments of calm, totally refuses to be the center of attention, something that hurts her, a person who escapes does so because she has been rejected and this has caused her such injury that it is only possible to avoid. That.
Those who flee cannot bear not knowing how to act in certain situations, they cannot bear shame or loss, simply because that will lead others to reject you, in their loneliness they are neither vulnerable nor unsafe, the mask protects them from what hurts. Is it cowardice? No, it’s just avoiding what we know we can’t control.
The masochistic person can be a mental or emotional masochist, this attitude arises from a feeling of humiliation and shame for a past situation, this means that your attitude is always to solve the problems of others, to do everything for them by belittle and humiliating the person needs it.
The masochist does not like the precedents, which prevent or try to escape their wounds. The masochist faces what hurts in the search for more pain. They hurt him and he had no control. Now he has it and it’s he who decides what will hurt him internally, helps you deal with this situation.
As we have seen, there are different masks that we can use for an emotional injury that we have suffered, do you have a mask among those mentioned above? Do you know someone who uses one? It’s easy to identify a person wearing a mask because, at some point, their hidden self emerges.
It is better to overcome what scares us, the masochist may be himself, but at least he is dealing with his pain, this can make you stronger and help you overcome your trauma or, on the contrary, continue to hurt you. We’re waiting for your answers!