Emotionally strong people believe that others and daily events only affect us if we give them that power, through our own thoughts.
In other words, neither people nor events have the ability to hurt us, because there is no direct relationship between external events and emotions, whether I am well or if I am emotionally wrong is the result of my thoughts right now.
- Similarly.
- When someone criticizes me.
- Judges me.
- Thinks something negative about me.
- Just exercises their right to think.
- Criticize or evaluate.
- But that doesn’t define me.
“Anyone who is upset by the reviews admits they deserved it. “
-Tácito-
The thoughts of others are just the thoughts of others; If I believe them, I’ll allow them to affect me or offend me.
Therefore, I am myself, through my internal dialogue about reality, the one that causes suffering, it is not others who offend me, it offends me when I believe what other people think of me.
Receive criticism easily and don’t let them cause you suffering or discomfort.
We can’t control or change what’s happening “out there,” but we can change the way we interpret the facts. If I have that power, I can say I own my emotions. I control my emotions, they don’t, you control me.
Many will find it according to the situation. It’s unfair to be criticized for something you’re not or what you haven’t done Welcome to the world and to life!Both are unfair by definition, but in return they offer us many good things.
? The most important thing is to know each other, love each other and accept each other unconditionally. If they know each other deeply and accept the way they really are, no matter what others say, it won’t affect them.
? He understands that the other has the right to think, criticize, judge and evaluate. As much as it bothers us, we can’t change this situation. What others think of you is not your problem; that’s your problem.
We have no way of controlling or influencing what others think of us. Therefore, there is no need to react negatively; this can lead to more criticism.
? Listen to all the criticism. Sometimes they teach us many lessons and help us grow.
? Respond to criticism with serenity, both verbally and not verbally, don’t respond with sarcasm, an air of superiority or a ‘frown’, this will send the other person the message that you care more about what he thinks of you than what you think of yourself.
Look the other person in the eye calmly, but without challenging them, maintain a relaxed and confident posture and tell them that you have the right to think what you want of it, even if you disagree and your opinion is different.
The key is not to accept and argue, but to accept without accepting, which is very different.
It’s easy to do that? We do not learn to be rational or to unconditionally accept the opinions of others. We often act against our will, simply to avoid being judged and criticized.
But in any case, we can try to deal with criticism more calmly. Practice our suggestions vigorously, until you can tell yourself: what others think of me are only your thoughts.