What was your excuse for not changing today? You may think you’re too old to learn Chinese or you can expect what you want, you may not have the courage to pursue this goal that you’ve set yourself so enthusiastically because you’re starting to tire and doubt. It’s not fear, it doesn’t mean having capacity or not, it’s not about security either. This is all the result of your apology; Reasons your mind invents and is based on.
The difference between people who have an acceptable life and those who have an excellent life is not the absence of fear, but the absence of excuses.
- We’re all afraid.
- Because it’s a natural emotion.
- It is true that it often blocks us.
- Paralyzes us and does not let us move forward with what we want.
- However.
- This does not lead us to throw in the towel.
- This attitude comes from ourselves willingly.
- Hidden behind several excuses that have no reason to be.
- Fear takes us there.
- So does insecurity; so we redirect our feelings to the vast world of apology.
Let’s say, for example, that you’re trying to be more responsible or thinking about changing jobs because you’re not happy with what you have now, you certainly have a clear goal, but you’re missing something. You have doubts and you don’t know if you can do it, or you start thinking it might not be worth it. Without realizing it, procrastinates.
Procrastinate is to leave for tomorrow what you can do today, but that by different circumstances decides to postpone it, that is, you are not really as committed as you think, when we really want something, we try to drag it as little as possible. Over time, there isn’t but?. You may not get the chance you have today tomorrow. Things are done by moving the tiles and not looking at the tray passively.
Let’s say you have a personality that causes you problems in your interpersonal relationships and even in your work. Many times you have received calls of attention and responded with a “yes, I have to change the way I treat the people around me. “you think others are right, and you don’t like the way you act on certain occasions, however, as the days go by everything stays the same, the big question is why?
Only by acting, doing, moving the tiles will you be able to achieve whatever you want.
The answer is in the fact that the word “tomorrow” is constantly in his mind; However, when the next day comes you have already forgotten, you are not really committed to change because laziness prevails, you may consider in your inner forum that you are too old to change some aspects of yourself. Error. La age may be a condition, but what we think of ourselves has a much higher weight.
Maybe phrases like “Is it useless for me to try because I won’t get the results I want?” they are familiar to you. But have you tried very hard or got ahead of what might happen?Sometimes we are not honest with ourselves and justify our behavior based on something that has not yet happened, that is because we are not really engaged, as we mentioned. earlier.
The problem with the human being is that sometimes he is wrong to believe that he is doing something useful, when in reality he does not move to get what he wants, every excuse makes us feel better, victims of certain circumstances that prevent us from realizing what we want However, this is a great lie. Think about it: do you want to hear what he says or what he says out loud?
There are changes in life that provoke real fear, whether forced or imposed by ourselves, not only when we try to fine-tune our personality, but also when we embark on a new adventure, such as going back to college or leaving work to do anything. It really fills us up. But it’s all will, desire and effort. There is no easy solution, it is to go against this difficulty that will sink us the most if we face it well.
It doesn’t matter if you think this isn’t the time, or if you don’t have all the resources to do it: the truth is that almost never, even with all the time in the world, we’ll have all the resources available. It gives you the same doubts that arise and you say “Don’t do that!”Do it anyway, without apologizing.
Most of the limitations you consider real exist only in your head and you can take them down if you really face them. You don’t have to lie to yourself or others. If you don’t want to change and move on with something, don’t go away. But when you want to get to a certain point, do it without consideration, without excuse, without procrastinating, without a doubt?Things have to be done without thinking too much, we’re glued to the point of being completely paralyzed.
Images courtesy of Sophaa Bonati.