You may be surprised, but according to experts more than 60% of the population has a personality type oriented to an external control locus, so it is possible that you and I fit into this dimension, but what does that mean?To better understand it, we can look at a simple example.
“We found a friend, and worried about his expression, we asked him, “You don’t look good. Is something wrong? Faced with this question, our answers might be: “Did my partner offend me?”My parents don’t support me, “Didn’t my best friend want to lend me money?” I’m unlucky?,?Are things getting worse?
- In essence.
- Having an external control locus refers to what we attribute to external circumstances in most cases.
- And to people.
- Responsibility for our mood.
- Another example might be to think “I’m very lucky lately.
- ” a common term in which responsibility for an external benchmark continues to arise.
- Let’s look at it in detail.
So how does a person with an internal control locus work?These personalities take full responsibility for what they feel and do. It may seem strange to you, but according to psychologists, few people give the full weight of what’s going on in their lives.
We know that we can alternate, on certain occasions, the two control locuses, you may know that, for example, it is up to you to have a better job (improve your studies, move, move, country), but nevertheless, you may think that the happiness of your emotional life depends exclusively on your partner, without seeing your own responsibility, people are very complex in this type of dimension , and it is clear that it is not always easy to see our own responsibility in every facet around us. We.
It is always easy to think that if I have no job it is the fault of the social and political context in which my country is involved, gradually falling, unknowingly, into a defeatist attitude. More importantly, there are also people who, even if they are not happy in their marriage or in their personal situation, simply decide to take it regardless of their own needs; the right to be happy.
What needs to be made clear is that there are many external forms that are imposed on us and from which we cannot escape, we all have obligations in many of the contexts in which we work every day, but in these areas we have the right and the ability to control our lives and choose our own path. To achieve this, to succeed, we must begin to put the personal pronoun in many of our actions and thoughts. “I’ll look for all the options to make me feel better. ” Things are getting better because I’ve worked hard to get there. “When I feel bad about my personal relationship, I have to do my part to find a solution. “I’m responsible for myself and that’s where I want to be. “
We know it is not easy. But we can never control our own happiness if we do not invest in our own development, especially avoiding being manipulated by external forces, life usually brings us many losses in our personal ways, in our existential map, but to avoid them. , making room for peace on our way, depends on ourselves. Our life force, our motivation. Fatalists and those who feel determined by external agents will always feel manipulated by others, almost forced to live a “planned” life. And can anyone be happy that way?
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