A message from? Hello I miss you or one like this your day It is simple gestures that enrich our sentimental relationship, however, what’s influence on relationships and dependence on blue arrows can often lead us to extreme situations, to dynamics of absolute control, to discussions based on misunderstandings that can eventually bear fruit.
A recent study published in the journal Computers in Human Behavior revealed an aspect that shows how these technologies are changing our relationships.
- For this study.
- A survey of Americans from 18 to 45 years was conducted on the importance of messaging services in their daily lives.
- And in particular in their connection with their loving partner.
- The result is very direct: the use of WhatsApp was the key to the relationship and a thermometer in it.
SMS is an indispensable form of communication for most of us, this channel we use it at the family, professional level and, of course, in our affective relationships, this immediacy in the response and the closeness that gives us strengthen the relationships that are (mainly) in the phase of passion, however, this seems to be complicated when we strengthen this link and reach the stage of coexistence or consolidation.
Using WhatsApp can completely enrich or destroy our romantic relationships, according to experts, the use of smartphones is also a reflection of how we treat our own emotional bonds.
Sms messages are delicately intimate, but at the same time distant, strengthen the relationship, give a loving impulse at times of the day when we need it most and, above all, enrich the bond with the person we love. Don’t deny its magic, turn off its charm or criticize its usefulness, because it’s real.
But what’s inevitable here? But what professionals who work with couples therapy are increasingly realizing is that the use of WhatsApp in relationships is usually a double-edged sword.
Many of the difficulties, disagreements and problems are a direct consequence of the hyper-connectivity environment in which we are overwhelmed, digital media has a curious feature: whether they like it or not, reflect how our true personality is reflected, our fears and obsessions are channeled through social networks, as well as our ability to respect or not, but also our emotional maturity.
To better understand this, we need to think about all the ways WhatsApp affects our romantic relationship.
Social media, as well as the use of messaging services, are channels where our insecurities are unconsciously reflected, generating cognitive responses based on jealousy, suspicion and obsessive thoughts laden with mistrust.
Having a smartphone or computer does not allow us to make good use of it, especially messaging applications, as is the case with WhasApp, not when its use passes through a channel that we do not always control: the emotional one. in the pocket. Love in the 21st century is portable and we don’t always use it well.
The fault, therefore, is not in the new technologies or the constant progress of this sector, it is we, the people, who do not move forward with these fabulous resources that, after all, we are here to make our lives easier.
Today, the combination of apps and relationships increasingly highlights our insecurities, our most immature and dark voids, that make us suspicious of others and make jealousy a weapon of mass destruction through messages, audios and emojis.
We must avoid these situations. We need to better educate young people, in order to make this resource a rewarding mechanism for our relationships, starting with ourselves, we must work our emotions, our trust in others, and understand that true communication, the most satisfying, is what the gaze does, not the blue arrows.