Ending a romantic relationship is a decision we will always remember, no matter whether it’s a good decision or not, whether it’s good or bad for us, it’s something you don’t forget, we’ll seek support, other people’s advice. people, but after all, it’s our decision, our life, and we have to listen to our intuition.
First, think about what this relationship will be like if it continues for another year or five; maybe this perspective gives you an idea of what you want to do, which makes you feel good or bad. You have to be very realistic and not make a mistake, because this self-deception can hurt us and the other person.
- To find out if it’s time to end our romantic relationship.
- It may be time to ask ourselves some questions.
- Without looking for the culprits.
- Because a relationship is made up of two people.
- We simply need to try to understand what happened and how we can learn from it wisely and patiently.
Many of the questions we will ask ourselves before we end a relationship will be painful, because sometimes reality hurts, but it will be necessary to reflect and understand who we are and what we expect from a relationship, ending a relationship hurts, but continuing with a relationship that does not work hurts much more.
The psychologist Walter Riso argues that a healthy love always contains three elements: eros (sexual desire), philia (friendship) and agape (tenderness, delicacy) and that one can never fail, because if one of them fails, suffering will appear, because we believe that the relationship is incomplete.
If we stop to think about whether the relationship we have is what we want, we can have a clear perspective on what we really want, it is important to be very realistic in our relationship, as we said before, and not excuse certain situations. or attitudes we don’t like.
If we want something else, if we want to have a different kind of relationship, we’re probably not with the right person. Think carefully about what you really want, not what others say or think is best for you.
We often insist on continuing decaying relationships without realizing that ending the relationship with someone who doesn’t make us happy and who we don’t like can be liberating.
As Walter Riso says, why humiliate yourself? Humiliation in any form (begging, swearing, bowing your head, flattering another too much) has a boomerang effect, because over time, humiliation makes you suffer.
It is advisable to analyze the relationship and the possible rupture to see what we have lost and what we have gained, but above all, it is important to feel what our heart and intuition says, we cannot ignore this feeling that we can feel deeply our hearts.
When you’re sure of the reasons why you want to end the relationship, it’s important to see if there’s a chance to fix the problem with your partner and if it’s worth looking for a solution.
For example, if the problem is that you and your partner have many disagreements and fight a lot, the solution may be to learn to dialogue more maturely and to manage emotions, however, if there has been infidelity, you must be very sure that you can forget and forgive, because otherwise, it may be a good reason not to try again.
If you ask all the above questions and decide to end the relationship, it is likely to go through a complicated period, but remember that all the pain subsides and improves over the days, we all need time to assimilate, but there will be a time when you will realize that you have made the right decision with maturity and courage.