I’m releasing you today. Today I want to forget my fears, today I want to start valuing myself. Today I’m going to move on, today I’m going to keep you waiting.
We often realize the emotional captivity we are subjected to when our relationship begins to collapse, this happens when someone hurts us, or enslaves us, or when something in us has broken down and we have to say goodbye.
- In these situations we feel that the world is disconnected and that a huge wave of pain.
- Which comes at us.
- Prevents us from breathing.
- This is emotional suffocation and its key ingredient is emotional dependence.
But sometimes it’s time to free yourself from attachment, what you force yourself to feel, and it’s time to start a new life, toward emotional freedom, and these are the moments when we don’t feel strong enough not to go hand in hand. with that person, or just someone who guides us.
“Throughout my life I understood love as a kind of consensual slavery. It’s a lie: freedom only exists when it’s present. He who gives thee totally, the one who feels free, fully loves. And the one who loves to the fullest feels free. . That’s why, despite everything you can live, do, discover, nothing makes sense. I hope this time passes quickly, so that I can look for myself again, find a man who understands me, that I do not suffer. But what do I say, in love no one can hurt anyone, each of us is responsible for how we feel, and we cannot blame the other. I already felt hurt when I lost the men I fell in love with. Today I am convinced that no one loses anyone, because no one owns anyone, it is the true experience of freedom: to have the most important thing in the world, without possessing it.
Eleven minutes from Paulo Coelho
The best way to be happy with someone is to learn to be happy alone. Because in this way the company becomes an option and not a necessity.
We misunderstood love because the key is not ‘I need you in my life’, but ‘I prefer you in my life’. Ignoring feelings of ownership and the need for control helps us live in peace and freedom with ourselves.
“I’m always bad and I get a little worse, but I’m learning to be alone, and is it an advantage and a small triumph?
Frida Kahlo
Your true freedom comes when you begin to understand who you are and what you are capable of, it is your independence, the coveted trophy, which begins when you let go, when you get rid of your bonds and look forward, without having to be ceded by someone. you hand in hand.
Not having and not having is the best experience we can have of freedom. Sticking to something means, in a way, having to live with slavery.
Our dependence and attachment makes us slaves, especially if our self-esteem depends on something or someone. The need for praise, affection or attention leads someone to become the owner of our destiny.
It is not others who harm us, but ourselves when we validate the opinions and actions of others. No one can hurt you without your inner consent, the place that should be the pillar that underpins your emotional architecture.
Thus, self-confidence and self-esteem are always the best tools to say goodbye to unnecessary addictions that hinder our vitality and our desire to achieve our personal realization.
We must be the first to respect ourselves, setting aside the expectations learned from what they have told us, that we are loved only if they need us, and that love is love only if we live for and for him.
Image courtesy of AJ Cass