When I believe in myself, I make decisions with more confidence, when I trust my resources, my experience and remember my values and needs, I awaken forces that open the way for me, in this way I allow myself to grow and move forward. building the reality I want, avoiding obstacles, taking the weights out of my emotional backpack, leaving behind everything that hurts me to enrich myself with what can happen.
Everything seems easy at first. We even like how it sounds, after all, in the field of personal growth the first commandment is always to learn to believe in oneself, however, although we have read books, articles and articles on the subject, it is still a subject that can teach us a lot.
- Moreover.
- Behind many mood disorders.
- There is undoubtedly a lack of confidence.
- Appreciation and appreciation of the person himself.
- Self-esteem erodes.
- The mind dominated by an internal dialogue accustomed to self-nsorship.
- To constantly criticize itself.
- Trust a person when all that’s left are ruins and deep psychological wear and tear.
One thing to consider is that you still trust yourself overnight. Actually, we face a fact that has lasted for years, if not decades.
This usually happens in our childhood and adolescence when we begin to incorporate a series of negative or mischial patterns and self-affirmations, creating gaps in our values and strengths.
The need to detect these wounds and rebuild is the first step towards happiness.
“When you doubt you can fly, you’ll stop doing it forever. “J. M. Barrie?
Abraham Maslow, one of the best-known psychologists of the 20th century, said that people had two choices in life: the first, to choose the path of safety; the second, towards growth.
If we want to find satisfaction and realization, we must bet on growth, considering that this bet forces us to overcome our fears.
However, this is not exactly an easy task. For a person to grow and develop according to their dreams, goals, and needs, they must disable a number of limiting beliefs. He must also abandon the irrational ideas and entrenched fears he knows superficially.
In fact, there are many people who go to therapy with realities in which they simply remain, well below their true human potential.
Still? Why is all this happening?
I know that when I believe in myself I feel happier and safer, however, I am not able to recognize anything special about myself, I am not qualified or have done something that makes me proud of who I am. like a stranger in my own skin.
This type of reasoning is very common among those who, since childhood, suffer from a clear lack of emotional support, the lack of validation, trust, of the trust that our parents place in us so that we can do things, express ourselves, decide, be autonomous and feel valued, certainly raises this problem. This remarkable lack of self-esteem and self-confidence.
After all, it’s very hard to believe in yourself when no one appreciates you emotionally.
In 2016 a very interesting study was published in Scientific Reports in which Dr. Jonas Kaplan and his colleagues discovered, through MRIs, the power of beliefs in our brain, whether political beliefs or unfounded ideas, all beliefs are protected by a complex neural network.
In addition, these connections are reinforced by regions with emotional functions, all of which make it difficult for someone to understand that they have great potential, that they need to believe more in themselves when making decisions.
So it’s not enough for someone to insist on what we’re worth. Does real change happen when we? Reformulate these ideas, these false, harmful and exhaustive schemes.
When I believe in myself, I decide better. If I dare finally question my old beliefs and the ideas others have left me, I let go of the rust of fears, the worm of insecurities.
But isn’t it easy to do this internal cleansing and remove those seeds full of criticism that others have instilled in us to the point of convincing us that we can’t, that we didn’t know, that we didn’t deserve this and that?
We all have potential. We all have the right to position ourselves in life, leaving behind this set of beliefs that limit us so much. It is time to grow up, to choose the path of self-realization, as Abraham Maslow said. We all have internal resources to do that.
So, from today, I choose to believe in myself as I deserve, now I stop giving importance to the conditions around me to understand that it is my decisions that define me, will they allow me to overcome the difficulties of finding the happiness I desire?, what dream and what do I crave?