When the years weigh and wrinkles mark my skin, I want to have at my side people with young minds and happy hearts, I want my bones to hurt so much to laugh at your side, I want my tired feet to continue I want to dance and I do not lack this company that disturbs my soul and gives hope to my days.
We know that most of us share these good wishes, however, there is one aspect that is very evident: aging is not pleasant, beyond acquired wisdom or personal balance, old age is lost above all: we lose youth, health, energy. and even the future. That’s when we realize what matters most: our personal relationships.
- Knowing how to age is the masterpiece of life.
- And one of the most complicated things in the difficult art of living.
- -Henri Frédéric Amiel-.
Third youth? From our lives with exceptional people at our side is undoubtedly the most appreciated asset, in which we must all invest now. Look for modest people, wonderful and magical young people who offer life to their years, and joy. with every candle out on his birthday.
Having a young mind is a privilege reserved for very few people, so much so that there are young people who already have octogenarian minds, where their horizons do not feed on new perspectives, and where they leave no room for spontaneity, curiosity or passion. for life.
This type of profile is useless in scaling this last stage of life which is old age, that is when it takes much more strength, more energy and optimism to soothe the physical pain of these painful bones, of this loss, perhaps, of the spouse himself, of this sadness that sometimes adheres without knowing why , when existence weighs too much.
A cheerful heart and a young spirit become the best allies to see more clearly from the top of this mountain, which is personal maturity, because aging is first and foremost the art of continuing to wait, and that is what people who have this particular shine in their eyes offer us.
It is the light of a heart that has suffered and healed, that understands that every day is a new opportunity to be happy, having twenty, fifty or seventy-nine years.
According to an interesting survey published in the journal Current Biology, humans and monkeys are similar in many behaviors, more than we think, what is really special is what we develop as we age: to become extremely selective with our friendships.
It is obvious that this is something that many have already practiced without necessarily having passed through the portal of the sixties, however, it is as if the lives of many primates have the vital need to seek the support and daily accompaniment of these important members. , just as the share of life begins to be restricted.
For a moment, was it explained by a simple?but bad Thought: who says that as we age we have fewer resources and less energy, and not wanting to take risks, we focus on what we have closest. Now it’s clear that this is not the case. In fact, apes and humans apply a basic law: you need to be surrounded by special people and have quality time.
During our youth we do not apply this filter of selection: we cling to the first thing we find, whether it is love or friendship, however, the learning we learn from these experiences is what gradually guides our own compass and finally tells us what is right. for us and what’s not good for us.
When we reach advanced maturity, there is still will and energy to meet new people, to connect, yet we are extremely selective. It doesn’t make sense at all. Laura Ameling, a scientist at the German Primate Center, discovered that older monkeys joined some members of her group (younger or younger), rejecting others.
Most of the time they were dedicated to socializing in these small groups, taking care of each other, hugging and taking off their lice. Above all, they sought rewarding relationships in the last years of their lives. The same goes for humans. It’s no use what’s closest, every day.
To reach old age in the best way, it is ideal to have young-minded people, courageous beings, full of light and life, who continue to encourage us to learn, to enjoy, to face the hardness of diseases or possible losses. Because even though the passage of the years is inevitable, letting the mind and mind age is an option that we must not allow.