What are the benefits of being impulsive? There don’t seem to be many of them; On the contrary, impulsivity harms us and those around us. Worse, this behavior is unconscious and we quickly regret our actions, yet we cannot back down.
That’s why it’s important to learn how to control our impulses and think a little more before you act.
- If someone tells you something and you react and answer badly ?.
- If they ask you a question and you say the first thing that comes to mind ?.
- If you are the first to start an argument.
- If something goes wrong.
- You throw everything in the air floor or start screaming and having tantrums like children.
- You may have a problem of impulsivity.
Don’t feel bad, everything in this life has a solution (except death, as they say). First of all, it is good to understand that being impulsive from time to time is not bad, because it could help us not to be so shy or introverted, to get what we want and to be heard. However, the problem is when impulsivity is the rule, not the exception.
There are different types of impulsive and compulsive people. Among the latter, for example, are those who buy unnecessarily and accumulate clothes and objects in their homes. We’re not going to focus on that in this article, but otherwise we use to channel or respond to emotions. That is, when we use anger, anger, nervousness and crying when something doesn’t go the way we want it or when we don’t know how to solve a problem.
We can convey many things with the way we express ourselves, but we don’t always say what’s good with our words or attitudes, we may not have the ill intention of hurting or hurting someone, but that’s what we end up doing.
If you are one of those who throw the first stone at the first stimulus, if you respond before properly analyzing the situation, whether the initial reaction is to get angry or fight, if you feel blind by hate and when you feel very angry, you simply think you are offensive, revenge or screaming?Be careful, because impulsivity can put you on the road.
You don’t need an excuse: “I’m stressed, I did it without thinking, I have a lot of problems, the economic crisis makes me sick, I’m impulsive by nature, I have PMS,” etc. the situation and accept that you have a problem of impulsivity. That’s the first step.
Then it’s time to act, not react. This means that if your first act in the face of a not-so-good stimulus is retaliation, it’s better to wait. The technique of counting up to ten (twenty, thirty, one hundred) can work, or take a deep breath. Do not answer or scream in the first second after what the other has finished speaking.
What’s the point? So you don’t say the first thing that comes to mind, that a lot of times it’s not the right thing to do or the right thing to do.
Sometimes letting two seconds go by doesn’t mean you can’t continue the conversation or don’t understand something, but you need time to process the information. You can be proud that your mind is faster than light, but that’s not the case. it’s always a good thing.
When you can put things in perspective, everything is better. When you take the time to analyze other people’s words and your own words, you can get better results. When you don’t let the pulse be the first to come out of your mouth or body. , you’re predisposed in a different way. When you think before you speak and measure your words, you can come to a good port.
Finally, I leave you a nice reflection
“Always think about what you’ll do before you act. Don’t let impulsivity dominate you or will your path be filled with darkness?