It’s not easy to know when it’s the right time to talk and when to shut up. It can be said that identifying the best thing to do in every situation is an art. “He who speaks a lot, makes many mistakes,” says popular wisdom, and it’s true. Too much talk exposes us to excess negative consequences. However, not speaking often also has consequences. So how do we know if we’re calmer than we need to?
Silence is a much appreciated asset because it allows us to pause to think, meditate and modulate discourse, it is also a necessary condition to listen and encourage reflection, however, when we remain silent more than necessary, we can also contribute to misunderstandings or perpetuate undesirable situations.
- Silence must be a decision.
- An act of prudence.
- A form of courage that is not always valued.
- In some people the lack of words is a personality trait.
- Yet they can also know when to speak and when not to speak.
- You remain silent for other reasons.
- Such as fear.
- Confusion.
- Or disorientation.
- You can keep quiet longer than necessary How do I know?Here are some keys that can help us.
? What you want to express must be clear; what you can’t talk about, is it better to shut up?Ludwig Wittgenstein?
If your silence creates conflict, we can say that you are calmer than necessary. For example, one person feels angry with the other because he found out he lied about her. Instead of dealing with the situation and complaining about this behavior, he decides to remain silent. However, he begins to show hostile attitudes toward the person who offended him. It also creates a barrier and keeps people away.
In this case, it is very likely that the offended person will have for a long time some resentment over the lie of which he was a victim and the other person will never have the opportunity to explain his reasons or acknowledge his mistakes. In circumstances, silence does not solve anything, but it generates an invisible wall that prevents the solution of a problem.
Silence in the face of injustice is insensitivity or cowardice. In this case, the popular saying says, “Who shuts up, consent?” means that silence is a means of approving or legitimizing abuses. This is a clear example that we are quieter than necessary.
It is not easy to raise your voice to prevent something unfair from happening, especially if the aggressor is a person with power, as is often the case. This kind of silence can damage a life. Talking at the right time is as important as staying silent if necessary. Injustice must not find accomplices in silence.
Sometimes life leads us to build armor to protect ourselves, we may have had experiences in which we feel assaulted or violated, and this leads us to lock ourselves in a certain fear that remains dormant, a condition that often drives us to adopt a lifestyle in which we are calmer than necessary.
We may have a lot to say or contribute, but we have decided to keep it to ourselves, because we do not value our opinion, we are afraid of being judged or questioned, although we are aware that we have an interesting or important idea. In such cases, our protection of the world becomes a prison that will not let us fly.
We can say that we are calmer than necessary when we do not openly express our love for others. Love must always be expressed aloud. It is not good to keep sweet and affectionate words: whoever receives them will never think that it has been forgotten, in fact, affection is one of the most beautiful gifts that can be offered to the other person.
Every loved one is a loan that makes us live better, sooner or later the bond will end. Whether it’s because distance is imposed, because ties are broken, or by death, that’s why every moment we live with the people we love is precious and there will never be enough words to show us how important it is in our lives.
Words create and destroy, but also silence, so it is important to cultivate the art of knowing when to speak and when to be silent, if we can learn, we will certainly be more consistent, precise and assertive.