Everyone has their own opinion on loneliness, which can also vary depending on when the consultation is made, there are those who exalt it and admit that it is a reality that sooner or later, and in different circumstances, we will all have to face. Others fear you and do whatever it takes to avoid it. Many also learn to keep their balance: they don’t feel bad when they’re alone, but they know how to go on and let the other go.
This article is dedicated to people who invariably feel alone and suffer from it, it deals with cases where loneliness has become a real prison, however invisible it is to others, life has led them to a point where there are no friends. familyless, only functional and casual connections. However, if you’re in this situation, you probably don’t know what to do to find people you feel complicit in and trust.
Eye: a lonely heart is not a heart. -Antonio Machado-
Unfortunately, the case we are describing is not exceptional, on the contrary, there is a real epidemic of loneliness that covers the world and tends to move forward. They defended individualism so much that in the end we build a reality where personal isolation is becoming more common, there are millions and millions of people around the world who feel chronically alone, it is a condition that does not respect age, nationality or social status.
It is unclear when the idea that “independence” was a desirable good began to take hold. They keep saying that we should not depend on anyone, it is better that you can solve yourself the difficulties you are going through, ideally you must live alone, grow your own garden, have your own business and not need anyone. Much intimacy or proximity began to be perceived as threats, to be confused with addiction. We will flee from that word, from our nature, because deep down, in a way, we are all dependent.
The result is this world that we have today, in which the company began to sell, there are several websites in different countries that offer tracking services, not only sexual, but also personal, nowadays it is possible to hire the services of someone who comes to chat a little, or who accompanies you to the cinema. If the supply exists, there is demand. And if there is demand it is because there is a lack that was previously fought naturally.
The effects of loneliness are not always so noticeable, this leaves an imprint on the mind and body, but sometimes this mark does not appear immediately, one of those effects, quite dangerous, is the change that occurs in the brain. a lot of time alone, without realizing it, you start to see people’s faces as a threat.
It’s really a tragedy. This means that the more you are alone, the more you will only feel, and it is not because you choose this path, but because your own physiology and anatomy are altered, that is when the siege ends. That’s when we start to run the risk of getting physically and/or mentally sick.
As can be seen, the gravity is that whoever is alone and stays so long after encounters internal resistances to get out of their loneliness. They are not reasons in the strict sense of the word, but pretexts. “There’s no one worth it,” they say. Or “At the end of the day, we die alone,” they add. But they don’t talk about those moments when fear invades them, or when sadness wins the battle. One way or another, they resigned themselves to what they accepted but did not try to change.
Chronic loneliness sick. There is a lot of research to prove it, we know that the immune system becomes inflamed and filled with resentment, there is a clear correlation between loneliness and premature death, in general, single people get sick and are more fragile.
Loneliness can’t be overcome with more contacts on social media, many people don’t even live alone, but they feel lonely, the most relevant thing here is not so much the number of people you’re in contact with, but the quality of the connections. Learning to be a good friend and make good friends is a gesture of survival and self-love. Any human relationship must have a sincere friendship, even if it is proportionally higher in one relationship than in others.
Human beings are a social animal. Chronic loneliness goes against nature and is not the result of a need or an authentic desire, if you feel alone, if you can’t connect with others, something fails, the problem may be due to the way you were raised or a subjective difficulty that you couldn’t solve, maybe it’s just that you haven’t developed social skills and don’t know where to start , anyway, the thing is, if your loneliness is chronic you need help, look for it, there’s no shame in that.