Can you imagine what would happen if emotions could disguise themselves as different emotions, besides, what if there were negative emotions that could be hidden in positive emotions, would we be able to face them?Think of the worst-case scenario: one of the worst emotions disguised as one of the best: what if fear replaced love?
Love, understood as romantic love: what? Of emotions generated between two people, in which would be attraction, commitment, intimacy and passion, a phenomenon that affects even the last cell of our body, influencing, of course, our minds, our emotions and even our tastes and preferences. .
- How could fear hide in an emotion like this?Let us imagine: living in love and fear.
- Is not love.
- After all.
- An act of courage and generosity towards ourselves and among ourselves?Perhaps we should put the fabrics on the table and clearly define what it means to use fear as a cover.
- What if the emotion that makes us feel love was fear?.
First, the million-dollar question: why be afraid?Well, we must be fair to our humanity and admit that this emotion accompanies us from the dawn of time, facilitating our flight or our struggle for survival, so, in the face of an emotional event as strong as love, is normal. to trigger our fears, warning us that a change could be bad.
In this way, if someone activates it very easily is because fear has ceased to have the usefulness it had before, today we react disproportionately to events that are not threatening, that is, we call it bad events that can only be done by us well.
We used to say that fear ceases to be useful when it paralyzes us, prevents us from enjoying, suffering or simply living, stories of abandonment, abrupt endings, pain and suffering leave traces for us and condition our way of understanding and receiving love. become compulsive for fear of love, trying to escape the supposed suffering that comes with a relationship, or even that suffering that implies loneliness and not feeling alone.
We have already seen the first keys, however, if fear is activated so easily and love is able to activate it because of our previous chagrins, how does that manifest itself?Let’s look at some examples.
Getting to the point where we know why and how, the logical question is: are we alone in the face of danger?No way. However, it is necessary that before we begin to think about fear or love, we must be aware of our humanity. Of our need for love and our fears as a people. That we understand that fear will always be present and that we can accept it and choose love, or not.
We quickly find something that is also inseparable from life and the human condition: time, this may be obvious, and even seem like a ‘trap’, but it is still one of the highest cards, time and its healing capacity influence us the most. than us. You can imagine, and help us to observe from another angle the events that are at the root of the fears that haunt us today.
Finally, we are individual people, with our personal knowledge and wisdom and, above all, our infinite capacity to love and our insatiable desire to be loved, to integrate something and to be appreciated.
The love we feel, coupled with all that it entails, gives us the extraordinary capacity to love again. And who better than him to denounce loneliness, doubt and loss, to return to love?Certainly, in this way, we will end up asserting ourselves, afraid with our love, not the other way around.