There is a principle that never fails: narcissists know more than experts, do we see it especially these days, with all these voices that seem to have PhDs in almost every science: medicine, nursing, virology, politics, economics, geostrategia?
These are people with who are impossible to engage in a debate without trying to gain momentum or assume the assumptions that they are betting on true and proven.
- Alfred Aldler.
- Founder of individual psychology.
- Has studied this type of personality carefully.
- And in research such as that of Dr.
- Heinz Ludwig Ansbacher it is recalled that the famous Austrian psychotherapist had already warned at the time that narcissists represented the most negative side.
- Of society Far from promoting the advancement of humanity.
- They hinder it with its clear egocentrism.
If you look at the current situation, we’ll see how uninformed people are still trying to report. They are the ones who, far from presenting proposals, bet only on criticism; in the face of any evidence, they do not hesitate to distort it to fuel discussion, mistrust and even fear.
In difficult times, we especially need people capable of promoting alliances and fostering spaces of harmony for ideas and mutual help to circulate.
When narcissists know more than experts, a disagreement arises, when the ego dominates every conversation, every situation or interaction of the day, we feel exhaustion.
We are seeing this more often than ever in the current situation, in social networks these voices constantly question any information, even if the sources are diverse and reliable.
It is true that it is good to have a critical look, of that there is no doubt, however, there comes a time when the light almost disappears in the fog, there are those who believe that they know everything and refute any data without a constructive and useful perspective. Destroying and criticizing just to criticize doesn’t help right now.
This further fuels uncertainty and discomfort. On the other hand, we must not neglect people who live with the narcissist.
It is important to remember that this feature falls on a spectrum and therefore some people have only a few traits and others have a clear narcissistic personality disorder.
In recent cases coexistence is very complicated and exhausting, even more so in these circumstances, where coronavirus containment and the global crisis aggravate any psychological problems or personality traits.
When narcissists know more than experts, what they show is just a necessity: to show intellectual superiority, in an attempt to show more ingenuity, intelligence and dominance in any scientific field, they want above all to dominate.
They want us to believe that the world is divided into two parts; on the one hand, those who know nothing and, on the other hand, themselves, mastering all knowledge.
Why do they do that? Alfred Adler, who continued Sigmund Freud’s studies on the narcissistic personality, has already pointed out something important in his day: the narcissist presents a combination of a superiority complex with an obvious sense of inferiority.
Make no mistake, because these people have low self-esteem, this underestimation of self-view pushes them into behaviors in which they seek to protect themselves, where they resort to exaggeration, greatness and criticism to position themselves.
Moreover, we must not forget a simple aspect: the superiority complex is the worst of the defense mechanisms. The motive? It’s always harmful.
Narcissists know more than experts. It’s always been and always will be. Far from helping in difficult times, they widen the abyss and the coldest distance. Companies and organizations know that narcissistic leaders are no longer appreciated or useful.
If in the 80s and 90s the highly direct, individualistic and even aggressive bosses who ran the company with a vertical focus stood out, now the landscape has changed.
In the most complicated situations, those who know how to work as a group win, those who contribute ideas and do not invalidate them. At the moment, people need to be united and, if there is a voice that fuels discord by bringing the voice of criticism. , there is discomfort.
Let us be clear: the person who always wins is one who, with adequate intellectual humility, is able to listen, appreciate other perspectives and suggest proposals. We need bright but humble personalities with emotional intelligence.
Today’s society has no place for narcissists, we have to live with them, we know that, but let us avoid giving them power, let us no longer feed discord.