When no one believes you, it’s the best time for you to do it, that way, when someone tells you that you’re not fit, that your moment has passed, or that what you want isn’t for you, look up and smile. everything, to impose limits, you already exist or reality; few need help in this task. Rely on the power of self-confidence and do it.
Sometimes it is necessary to approach the lions to drink water in the pond, only then will we have a chance: to train fear and limit its influence, in this sense insecurity is a bad companion, and anyone who chooses to stay in their shelter. will never seize every opportunity presented to him.
“Dare courage and trust today: when you spread your wings, you fly. Maria Demuth?”
It was Abraham Maslow who said that human beings come into the world with almost unlimited potential to grow, to conquer the pyramid of needs that includes the highest goals of happiness and well-being. top, despite its ability to allow it.
The cause? At one time or another, we all meet a competent agent who is willing to hinder our personal growth, can be found in many areas, acting without notice, can appear in the form of a close family member, friends, teachers, etc. colleagues or business leaders. We’re talking about characters who cut off our wings and convince us that we’re not good at this or that.
He had asthma when he was young and, from a young age, he was convinced that playing a sport was not good. Football, karate, tennis? Better something quieter, better to opt for chess or design, because then there would be no risk. Later, he pointed out to his master that he wanted to be an astronaut and was observed with a mixture of laughter and irony. How, if you don’t know anything, about science, it says between laughs?It’s better to go to a college of letters.
While already in college studying geography and history, she decided to become a writer, it took her a year to write an original sci-fi book, with dystopian themes and a lot of humor, however, when she went to present her manuscript to an editorial, she didn’t even answer.
His manuscript was only one of more than a thousand. So his family and friends suggested it was better to forget about it, concentrate on a public exam and get a job as a high school teacher. A teacher who ever dreamed of being an elite athlete, then an astronaut, then a writer?
What to do when no one believes you? Maslow himself has written a very interesting book on the same subject: The farthest reaches of human nature, in which he explains that while most of us have remarkable potential for self-realization, we do not always enjoy it. fantasize about what we could do, what we could achieve, etc.
However, many times we do not have the means or psychological conditions to achieve our dreams, we allow ourselves to be conditioned by the opinions of others and we choose to remain in our comfort zone, this reality has been called by Maslow the Jonas Complex, which describes all the people who, aware of their abilities, do not dare to develop them out of fear and insecurity.
We must understand that there will always be one or more people who seem to tell us that we do not serve, that we do not know and, worse, that we cannot capture this dream, this longing, this project, when no one believes you. , there is only one option, the most logical and plausible: to believe in you and prove him wrong.
This change is neither easy nor fast. It requires proper interior work, which can be based on these three dimensions, let’s think about them.
We have become accustomed, too much, to hearing the advice of “Learn to Be Yourself”. It’s time to go further and fine-tune this idea a little more. If we just be “ourselves,” we may increase the dimensions that don’t help us at all. Yes, in ours? Like me today, we live in fear, insecurity and the need for approval, we will hardly achieve our goals.
Ideally, to clarify what we want and who we want to be, we must promote inner transformation to concentrate new forces and courage, with whom we can fully believe in ourselves.
Every leap requires an impulse, and every impulse needs strength, will, motivation and optimism, so when no one believes in us and our possibilities, the last thing we must allow is to spread that same defeatism and negativity.
Create an action plan, draw a strategy in your mind and fill it with positivity and determination, only then can you make the heels higher.
“When no one believes you, there is only one way: to be stronger and more optimistic than ever.
Achieving a goal certainly requires mutual trust, we live in social contexts and, therefore, achieving a goal and succeeding is not something that we can always do alone, a triumph needs recognition, a promotion or a prize implies that third parties recognize our value.
So let us not be slaves to these first negatives, let us not bow our heads to those who, at some point, doubt us and even mock our ideas, in the end great achievements never had a simple beginning. point, the right people will appear, those who know how to see, appreciate and instruct the virtues we have in us.
In conclusion, it is worth remembering, once again, this correct definition that the opposite of bravery is not fear or cowardice, it is conformism, that is precisely our problem: we settle for what we already have and even consider the comments of others about us to be valid.
Then let us begin to doubt who destroys our dreams, suggesting that we return from the Moon or surrender to insist on this ridiculous desire. No goal is ridiculous if you’ve been turning your head and heart for some time. Let’s defy fear and overcome conformism, to realize our own dreams.