Are you tired of always being diplomatic and accommodating, always accommodating to others, exceeded your priorities and needs?Have you ever thought that if at some point you were honest and talked directly about your differences of opinion with someone, without having to raise your voice or would you be upset, would you feel better?
Are you tired of fixing your neighbor’s computer, always being the one who takes care of your nephews, who always goes to the doctor with your aunt and who always takes care of things and obligations, even when you’re not in the mood, forget?
Are you tired of pleasing everyone?
“The most important thing I learned after the age of 40 was to say no, when wasn’t it??Gabriel García Marquez?
Say “no,” “enough, ” or “isn’t it?” it can free you, comfort you and make you feel better about yourself. Sometimes, for fear of an argument, out of shyness, because we think they’re going to like each other less, we don’t want to say it.
To avoid an uncomfortable situation, we accumulate everything we cannot say in front of us, always wanting to please, and in the end all we can do is hurt ourselves and no one else.
So sometimes it’s possible to start with little things, and even if they say “but you weren’t like that” at the time, “how did you change!” you’ll respond without fear?Yes, have I changed? And you’ll definitely feel more comfortable.
Certainly, these first changes will mark a before and after inside. You will feel more respected, more confident, and learn to behave with others in a positive and sincere way; and if someone doesn’t love you anymore, well, why doesn’t they ever really love you?
We must be respected and respected. And that’s not done by talking louder or making more noise, is that an attitude that everyone will notice when it’s rooted in sincerity, looking into the eyes, when one is clear to others?
Shut up and say yes whenever, that doesn’t guarantee that they love you anymore; in fact, thinking like this, maybe behind all this is low self-esteem, and you may think that satisfaction is the way to get affection.
1. Start with the little things. Don’t make silly excuses, because finally it shows up, just say you don’t like it, that you’re tired, that you understand but you can’t, that you also have your obligations.
2. Si don’t feel safe, think first about how you’re going to do it. You can stand in front of the mirror and analyze your verbal and body language. Assess whether your speech is sensible and reasonable.
3. No be afraid; It’s normal for you to feel uncomfortable and anxious at the time of your ‘no’, but they say that ‘well-understood clarity starts on its own’. is to love you.
4. Lose the fear of what others will say. The first one who needs to be satisfied with himself is you.
5. No have to give so many explanations. If you do that, you’ll start getting into your “how can I tell you this?” spiral?”And you’ll go back to the same place.
6. Learn that if someone loves you and appreciates you, they will not stop loving you to tell you a “NO”, you also have the right to rest and take care of yourself. Check your self-esteem.
7. Learn not to feel guilty about saying “NO”. It’s an internal job that you can do little by little.