There are many ways to understand love, many ways of loving and feeling loved, but some of them are judged negatively by those who cannot understand them. One of these special ways of living love is to love from a distance by choice. speaking of those couples who are forced by circumstances to live apart, either for professional or family reasons, but those who, on their own, decide not to live under the same roof.
To love from a distance is, in short, to be in a relationship, but without living as a couple, it is like a permanent relationship in which part of the intimacy of being able to live together is rejected. The other activities in your life take place as with any other couple, but the idea of living together is simply not a desired option.
- This way of understanding love is seen with amazement and unhook by the rest of society.
- In particular by couples who.
- Wanting this relationship.
- Do not have the possibility to maintain it.
- They cannot understand how it is possible that this is a love in which there is an explicit renunciation of the intimacy that comes from living under one roof.
- They imagine that behind their decision there is a great fear of compromise.
Love has thousands of forms. It fits each couple like a second skin, that’s why love has thousands of meanings and ways of understanding each other, but only a few have meaning, the ones we live.
According to Sternberg’s triangular theory of love, for there to be a mature and complete love, there must be three fundamental pillars:
In the case of distance love, intimacy would be lacking, so according to this author, we would face what is considered a pretentious love, pretentious love is one in which passion is what makes the relationship work and hold the couple together. . Nothing that the enjoyment obtained from the other unies them, and that is why they commit to spend as much time as possible together, but without knowing each other, because intimacy does not exist.
Sustained love based on passion and commitment, but in which an intimacy that has not generated trust is considered a pretentious love, in this sense it is worth saying that intimacy is something that is gradually built in the couple, and appears later than others. elements of union, such as passion, that usually appear from the beginning of relationships.
More familiarly, we generally compare remote love with fear of breakup, as Fernando Piscina says, fear of commitment appears in people who are in the passion phase and who cannot move on to the next stage. , which is that of love. This is because, to talk about love, you have to be vulnerable.
Opening up, showing its authenticity, its essence to another person, is to be vulnerable to it, so for those who fear injury, avoiding the privacy in which they should be vulnerable is an excellent choice.
“Not loving for fear of suffering is like not living for fear of dying” – Ernesto Mallo-
On the other hand, to love from a distance means not to live together, so that if the mourning is not so intense, because the bonds that are established will not be so deep, moreover, the residence is not just any place, but a place. adequate and safe shelter in which to take refuge.
However, on the other hand, it also prevents you from loving at all levels, with all your soul and with all your skin, the fear of suffering again, breaking you, will prevent you from living many parts of the love that you deserve to enjoy. . Stop being afraid, try your luck and don’t like it with distance, but with all your heart.