Let them go, let them go, should you, leave them? And all that psychological tyranny with which we often put an end to our happiness disappears, which are often part of an automatic discourse with which we force ourselves to accelerate things in life, undermining our self-esteem by almost always prioritizing the “should” compared to “I would like that”.
You may be surprised by this approach. Certainly, in our day-to-day life, we are subject to an infinite number of obligations and duties, we are social creatures and our role, in short, is to be part of this almost perfect outfit where no one should miss a beat. , if we do not fulfill our obligations, the inevitable consequences arise.
Should they be a way to focus all our attention on undesirable aspects?
We know everything. However, if we already have enough external pressure on it, it is not advisable to add an even more debilitating ingredient to upset our own thinking. Why are we sometimes so obsessed?Or should I have said this and not this? Or?Should I have acted this way? That all we can do is fuel discouragement, blockade and frustration.
There are all kinds of obligations, but the ones that most sabotage our personality are those that we impose on ourselves almost obsessively. “Should I visit my parents more, if I lose a few kilos, should I try harder in my life?” work to be promoted, should I be more attractive, should I be more kind, should I have this or another to be happier
What we usually do with these mental dynamics is to turn supposed desires or preferences into obligations or impositions of all or nothing, that way, when we do this and fall into psychological duty, there are several phenomena that we should point out:
The “and the” should “are part of our mental approaches. In fact, an interesting article by Psicology Today emphasizes that they are part of our neural circuits, which are a kind of programming integrated into the deepest and most primitive areas of our brain, such as the amygdala or the striatum.
Some of these internal rules have been internalized since childhood. Do we still feel compelled to do something?” Do something,” then a social role or an unconscious rule that deprives us of total freedom and happiness. Albert Ellis, for his part, speaks of this kind of mental tyranny as irrational thoughts, that is, as a means of self-destruction by wasting time and effort on something that simply doesn’t make sense, is not useful, or is often out of our control.
Now let’s see what strategies we can follow to weaken our “should. “
In conclusion, should we accept that somehow we all sail aboard the?Should we, again. It’s not about completely erasing them from our minds, it’s really about maintaining the right balance, perfect harmony between them and I’d love to.