Sometimes, almost without realizing it, we become villains, the wolf of the story of Little Red Riding Hood, we are someone who, by rejecting any request, telling the truth aloud or acting according to his values, instantly becomes the evil character of the tale, responsible for this fable not being “pink” and not having the narrative that someone wanted to dictate.
If there is one thing that is really dangerous and inappropriate is to use this radical dichotomy that tends to classify people between good and evil, we do it so many times that we barely notice it, for example, if a child is obedient, calm. and silent, we instantly say it’s “good. ” On the contrary, if he is bright, provocative, agitated and very prone to tantrums, we do not hesitate to tell him aloud that he is a bad boy.
- “The story always acquires the colors given to it by the narrator.
- The environment in which it is told and the person listening.
- “Jostein Gaarder-.
It is as if many of us have a pattern based on what to expect from others, which we consider convenient and respectable, which we mean by nobility or kindness, so when one of these concepts fails, when an element of this inner recipe fades. it doesn’t fill up or appears, we don’t hesitate to call that person reckless, toxic or even “bad. “
Being the wolf in someone’s story is quite common, however, in many of these cases it is necessary to carefully analyze the person under the red blanket.
The little red companion is an obedient child. On your way through the forest, you know you shouldn’t get out of the marked path, you have to follow the rules, act with determination, however, when the wolf appears, do your perspectives change?The wolf, in history, represents the intuition and wild side of human nature.
This metaphor helps us to understand a little more these dynamics that we face on a day-to-day life. Are there people who, like Little Red Riding Hood, at the beginning of the story show rigid and standardized behavior, have internalized what relationships should be?A good friend, a good colleague, a good son and an excellent couple should look?Their brains are programmed to look for these dynamics because they get what they need most: security.
However, when things don’t go as planned, when someone reacts, acts or reacts differently than expected, panics, an opposing vision is considered an attack, feels threatened and stressed. In the face of a different opinion, a harmless refusal or an unexpected decision, they are disappointed and insulted.
Then, almost unprecedented, une predicted and unintentionally, we become the “wolf” of history, in this person who, following his intuition, has wounded the fragile being, who lives inside a blanket.
On the other hand, there is one thing we cannot deny: often we are the Little Riding Hood who makes the mistake of creating his own story, we draw and plan what our life should be like, what the ideal family is like, the best friend and the perfect love that never fails and fits in all our spare parts. Imagining the perfect story delights us, gives us security and strives to maintain it so it defines us as a person.
However, when the story ceases to be history and becomes reality, everything collapses and a herd of wolves instantly devours our almost impossible fantasy.
Being the wolf in someone’s story isn’t nice. There may or may not be specific reasons why we are. Anyway, they’re unpleasant experiences for everyone involved. Now there’s a very basic aspect that we can’t ignore. Sometimes it will be, someone’s story allows us to be “good” in our history. We could be, for example, this hero who knew how to leave an unhappy and useless relationship, or this character who dared to end up in a story that would not have a happy ending.
The wolf will always be bad if we just listen to the little companion.
Before we become domesticated wolves living in impossible stories, it is convenient to unite our strength and courage, listen to your instincts and act with intelligence, respect and cunning, because acting according to your own principles, needs and values is not petty. It’s living, according to instincts, knowing that in the forest of life, the good ones aren’t always that good and the bad ones aren’t that bad. The important thing is to know how to live with authenticity, without skins or red coverts.