Our personality and the unique way we see life affect the way we relate to others. In some situations, we project our characteristics into the people around us, attributing them to other behaviors or thoughts that are basically ours. Be more related to how we deal with situations in our minds than with the circumstances that really happen to us.
Sometimes the worst attack we can suffer is not from the outside, but from ourselves. These are situations in which we feel attacked by external attacks and experience internal conditions such as anger, helplessness and social shame; it is precisely this that comes from ourselves that makes us feel weak and anxious, making us see others as enemies.
- For our emotional stability.
- It is essential to know how to restore the anger that these situations produce.
- To know what situations and circumstances negatively influence our lives is essential so that we can identify what or who we face.
There is no doubt that the worst attack is not from the outside, but from within, causing negative self-esteem that ends up destroying us as people, that negative self-esteem makes us our worst enemy, because our emotional balance depends, to a large extent, on our self-esteem.
“If there is victory in defeating the enemy, is there more to man overcoming himself?-José De San Martin-
Robert J. Sternberg, a professor at Yale University and former president of the American Psychiatric Association, identifies at least two types of enemies: external and internal.
Internal enemies, as the name suggests, refer to those within us, like our thoughts, is when negative thoughts trap us in a trap and lead us to anger, fury, hatred, making us see each other as an enemy of?Painful situations.
This inner enemy comes from irrationality, which causes us negative thoughts, emotional well-being depends basically on not getting carried away by automatic thoughts, since these have very negative characteristics:
“Can even your worst enemies not hurt you as much as your own thoughts?
Gandhi practiced a passive method to “fight?” Against your enemies: non-constructive resistance. It is an active way to build positive relationships with the enemy, proactively to face adversity. There are a wide range of situations in which we have to face each other in personal relationships. To deal with conflict situations, it is important to:
No matter how hard we try, conflict situations won’t disappear from our lives, so it’s important to learn how to control the effect they have on us.
“They say that our enemy is our best teacher. By being with a teacher, we can learn the importance of patience, control and tolerance, but we don’t have a real opportunity to practice it. Does real practice occur when we meet a teacher? enemy??. ? Dalai Lama-
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