Love always puts us at a crossroads, although many of them are happy mazes, however, sometimes these confusions are not so rewarding. That’s what happens when you’re in front of one of those people who doesn’t like you, but don’t let go either.
On the one hand, you feel that person isn’t really interested in you, doesn’t care about your needs and doesn’t make any more effort to make you happy, but when the glass overflows and you announce your intention to end the relationship, he makes hundreds of promises because he says he doesn’t want to lose it.
- This conflict is disconcerting.
- Sometimes it makes you think you might be confused.
- Despite this.
- You quickly see signs that he doesn’t like you and the cycle starts again.
- What to do in this difficult situation?.
“When you can’t love, die. -Friedrich Nietzsche-
Love always generates a certain suffering, but if it is healthy, it must generate many more moments of well-being than of anguish, it must also be based on clarity, even if it does not exclude doubts or contradictions from time to time. In short, love must make you happy.
From this idea, you can see that the person doesn’t like you when there’s more anxiety than calm, when you spend more time suffering absences and misunderstandings than enjoying your partner’s company, when you pause to reflect and realize that you’re no longer sure what it’s like to have inner peace. When you feel hurricanes in your heart all the time.
They don’t like you when they don’t pay enough attention to you, and also when they ignore their needs and feelings. Or when they underestimate you, reject or criticize you. It’s always easy to know when they don’t like you. The hardest part is ending the relationship and making decisions in front of it.
What always surprises is that even if the person doesn’t like you, don’t let go, he baffles you. If you love this person you end up convincing yourself that you are also loved, although in a strange way, the proof is that it does not allow you to end the relationship, why does this happen?
The main reasons are three
The common thing in all this is that it is a selfish position, the couple places their own needs above the others. That’s why you don’t mind hurting him, as long as he doesn’t have to take responsibility for his flaws or limitations.
If you find yourself in a situation like this it is advisable not to let more time pass without putting things in order, nothing good can come out of an asymmetrical relationship, on the contrary. The common thread is that everything is starting to become increasingly problematic, generating many bad moments, as well as insecurities and stagnation.
The first thing you have to do is analyze the situation and decide if they don’t really like you, don’t get carried away by victimization. Just think about whether your partner is really interested in you and enriches your life, otherwise it’s better to offer a frank dialogue. Set out your own reasons and try to understand the reasons for others. The other person may not even understand why he acts the way he does.
Next thing you know, leave that person. Clean it from your life, using all the mechanisms at your disposal, such a relationship is not worth it. It hurts, limits and you can get sick, if you think it’s impossible to finish, that you can’t tolerate the pain of quitting, it’s time to ask for help, it’s not love. Basically, there are other reasons.