Have you ever been a victim of it?(Both on one side and on the other). Maybe you’ve already fallen into this endless labyrinth of past jealousy. Many people suffer from jealousy, not only from here and now, but also from their partner’s past.
Today’s insecurity is not enough, but the couple’s past seems to be a hurricane that completely ravages their tranquility, tranquility and inner security, these jealousy do not suddenly appear, they are sought many times: the person morbidly seeks every detail of the stories and relationships that the other has experienced in the past.
- The details are always insufficient for the hungry and voracious monster of jealousy.
- Nothing is enough.
- It’s like a kind of prey where everything comes in.
- Everything is welcome and the person goes crazy.
- Not only wants to know the past relationships of their current partner.
- But also needs to know all the details of those relationships.
Of course, one of the obsessions is knowing what that person was physically like, what your way of being was like, how you treated them, how you felt, many people ask: why?Is this some kind of masochism? The logic of a rational mind would think: Why know the past, if it chose you?
“The past has passed. There’s no need to worry about that. What if he wants to go back to his past? Let him come back. Will you know what to do next? You must have heard these words from a friend, friend, a rational person who is trying to filter out and limit so many mental and emotional disorders.
But what’s behind this obsession with the couple’s emotional past, that’s the question we ask ourselves about this situation. Data, data and more data. The more there is, the better, because it’s never enough to starve this huge monster.
One way or another, we need to want to be the only person in our partner’s life, but what’s behind wanting to be the only person in your life?There is a fundamental insecurity (in capital letters, highlighted and bold). Self-esteem is destroyed; we must seek the security that does not exist in us, it is something that completely destabilizes us.
We are desperately looking for data confirming that we are the only ones: the most admirable and special person in the whole world, who by a strange coincidence, this person managed to live a life away from us (his only true love) before. Meeting.
Addiction is a consequence of this brutal insecurity, if my pillars disintegrate, I desperately seek support in something outside of me, I will look for someone to serve as a mirror, that reflects everything I cannot see or appreciate in myself. clinging to that mirror to emotional and mental toxicity.
All means are justified for my purpose, because it is neither a small goal nor any goal: I need to stay alive at all costs, not disappear, I need the voracious insecurity that, in my opinion, does not eat away my existence. And if I have to hold on to someone at all costs, I will. Because if you can’t stand it, I’m going to disappear; I’m nobody.
Really being jealous of your partner’s past is a very common problem and we need to have a look that tries to go further, everything makes sense. This is the meaning that we must seek and analyze, to finally turn everything into a way of helping, rebuilding, taking care of ourselves and accepting oneseed as it really is, because comparing ourselves to others is an unnecessary exercise of bitter echoes.
Comparison is useless because we are all different, each person is unique, appreciates and loves for himself this difference, from there look at you clearly, do not let yourself be blinded by arguments that have weakened your mental health, take care. The battle to end jealousy is not an easy task, it is to fight against a giant who has its roots deep in our being.
You can always do it again!