Sometimes we spend our lives taking care of our words and every action so that the person does not get hurt. However, when, forgive me? And “don’t be angry” are already daily notes on the scores of our lives, all we can achieve is slow self-destruction.
One way or another, we’re all the best in a crowded room, sometimes we touch each other, it’s normal. However, in this nervous dance of relationships, we sometimes encounter people with extremely thin skin, so sensitive and responsible that all they do in their life is add one offense after another.
- “Everyone can be upset.
- That’s understandable.
- However.
- Being angry with the right person at the right time and with the right intensity is no longer so simple.
- -Aristotle-.
Of course, we’re talking about hypersensitive people. They are experts in suffering and suffering, they are often personalities inhabited by the delicate veils of lack of self-esteem, victimism and insecurity, passable personalities, slaves to the opinions of others and eternal merchants of guilt.
We must be careful when establishing affective relationships with these types of profiles, since we will spend our lives paying attention to every detail, choose the right word, the right gesture, the right action so that nothing causes crime or concern.
Until we gradually embark on our own self-esteem with “forgive me, it’s my fault. “This is not appropriate, you have to avoid such dynamics. We suggest you think about it.
“Don’t be angry, it won’t happen again. ” Don’t worry, seriously, don’t worry, it was my fault. “Behind these phrases lies a tortuous psychological labyrinth in which one can find himself totally lost, do we use?Forgive me, as an extreme remedy to try to alleviate this almost always unjustified infringement. We even think it’s better to be guilty if we can soothe the irritation of the hypersensitive person.
Leaving weights of this caliber on our shoulders ends up destroying our emotional integrity day in and day out. We’ll implement what’s called “defensive guilt. ” It is a type of mechanism that many victims of emotional blackmail often use to protect themselves from helplessness.
It’s definitely a very complex issue. It is also important to note that the hypersensitive person is very vulnerable, although his low self-esteem makes him interpret from his subjectivity and victimization, we cannot forget that sometimes these engineers of misfortune can be aggressive.
In the end, the relationship with these types of people becomes almost a kind of ritual, everything will go well as long as one surrenders, bends his head and honors with his actions and words when we love him. prevent the appearance of the demon from susceptibility.
If we remain immersed in this circle, without reacting, we will be like fragile butterflies flying around a point of light, we will do so until our wings burn little by little.
It’s not about running away, breaking this relationship without first fighting for it, distance without prior battle can lead to regrets afterwards, it will always be better to do everything before making a more radical decision, if you want, fight. . If in the end the struggle is useless, there is no choice but to distance yourself from the way to safeguard personal and emotional integrity.
It should be noted, as a fact to be taken into account, that a number of studies related to hypersensitivity were carried out in the 1990s. It has been determined that we do not face any kind of disorder, it is a personality trait. To better understand this, you need to differentiate between the two types of sensitivity that exist.
The first is characterized by a type of sensitivity oriented towards other people’s feelings. The person can connect with other people’s emotions and feel empathy. In the other type, “hypersensitivity” focuses on itself and the reaction to others. The person still lives, in the same state: self-defense.
There is one aspect that is important to keep in mind, we will never adapt as a glove to the habits, obsessions or concerns of the hypersensitive person, if we are obsessed, don’t you get angry?To the point of controlling everything, detail so that no one “explodes”, we’re going to lose everything.
Above all, we ask for recognition and respect. In the end, we get tired of walking through these minefields where the smallest detail explores boredom and disapproval. No one can spend all their days in this state of continuous alarm, endless stress.