No one lives or stays in a situation of discomfort for pleasure, not even what we call “masochists”. Basically, we all want to be at peace and be as happy as possible, but we don’t always find a way to achieve it. In fact, this path becomes much more complex when the person is not doomed to learn to love himself.
Most people were not born and grew up in ideal conditions, many have faced very difficult circumstances from an early age, one of the most recurrent things is to grow up in a hostile environment, where there was no recognition or evaluation.
- When you don’t love yourself.
- You always have to delve into that distant past.
- There are reasons why he has learned to evaluate himself negatively.
- Why he cannot evaluate his accomplishments or make sense of his virtues.
- This is where the poisonous seed of wanting to be someone else.
- Living another life.
- Or somehow escaping who you are is born.
- The good news is that it is never too late to repair this damage.
- Learn to love yourself and be able to accept your being.
“You’re imperfect, definitive, and inevitably imperfect
The problem when you don’t like yourself is that you don’t like it at all, in reality the world always ends up becoming a projection of what we carry in us, however, it is not the world that has nice or unpleasant aspects, we are the ones who see it one way or another.
If you don’t like yourself, everything that has to do with you ends up being unpleasant or of little value to you, the usual thing is that you get excited and discouraged very easily, you always end up finding in each reality an aspect that leads you to see you with desanctantness.
You start a lot of things and you don’t end because the enthusiasm stops. You always find a way to see some negatives, too big, too small, too far, too close?Any aspect that, at first, is neutral, becomes negative or worthless, and you didn’t notice. You feel bad and you project it without realizing it, you actually have an open wound and you suffer.
Non-compliance is not a fact, but a point of view. The world and the reality are what they are. Every human being gives meaning to his universe. Our vision of reality speaks much more about ourselves than things themselves.
When you don’t love each other, can’t you give positive meaning to what you see, what you hear, what you perceive, what comes into your life?
One of the most disturbing aspects of all this is that without you nodding, it becomes a habit for you. Your mind starts working automatically. He works like a detective who’s always looking for the worst angle of all. As you always find, feed your idea that the world and reality are somewhat deplorable.
Without realizing it, you chose this view to address reality, but you didn’t do it for pleasure, it’s just a way of dealing with the traces of a rejection that has managed to profoundly hurt his displeasure with everything around him. just a way to deal with the pain of knowing that you don’t love yourself.
What you are, what you feel and what you think has probably been ignored, disqualified or simply rejected during your childhood, at home or in your immediate environment, and it was certainly a repetitive fact as well.
When you were a kid, you couldn’t understand what was going on. You grew up with the idea that it was “bad” in whole or in part. Those who did this to you certainly don’t like, non-compliance with you either. They were in a situation similar to the one you are today, they saw what was wrong in their judgment and they ignored the good, it’s a chain that becomes infinite until someone decides to finish it.
Ideally, you should check this option “Until then”. Finish this story of unhappiness, non-compliance and prejudice. Of course, we all have some misdeeds. In essence, however, we have a value that nothing and no one can question. We are no more or less than the others. We have the right to make mistakes and also to be happy. It’s time to build a new perspective.