In all relationships, there are critical moments when we don’t know what decision to make, you may need to pause to think, decide if the relationship ends, or whether it’s worth moving on.
In a relationship, the couple is constantly tested. Many difficulties must be overcome: discussions, wear and tear, routine, choice, such as moving to another country for professional reasons.
- But what if we decide to “leave”? The relationship must pass the abandonment test.
- Where one of the two leaves while the other waits.
- Or not?.
“The important thing is not tomorrow, but today. We’re here today, tomorrow maybe we’re not there anymore?
-Félix Lope de Veja y Carpio-
When one of them decides to leave, for whatever reason, may sooner or later repent, sometimes you have to ‘pause’, which can be positive or negative, what no one can do is say goodbye imagining that the other will “wait”. Think about it, don’t be selfish; you’ve decided to leave.
Many of us are afraid of abandonment. Perhaps because of past trauma or fear of loneliness: it is the famous emotional attachment that must be avoided if you want to be happy.
But if someone who fears being abandoned is really abandoned, they can react in many ways. For starters, you may feel very disappointed and angry with the other person.
Resentment is not a good thing, but if you’ve decided to leave someone, it’s inevitable. Put yourself in each other’s place; You left and stayed It’s very difficult to manage the pain of loss and try to forget.
That’s why going back and wanting to meet the same person is a reality that only exists in your mind.
People who felt abandoned by their partner, perhaps because they were gone or because they had asked for time, end up winning and learn to live without him. Do they overcome all attachment and suffering by not having their loved one by their side?to be overcome, even if at first it seems that the world has collapsed.
So it would be very selfish to imagine that we are going to find the same person we abandoned, because he had to overcome the pain we caused him, you probably won’t get a second chance.
If our partner is gone and we don’t know if he’ll come back or not, we have to learn to live as if he never came back. If you have to separate yourself from your partner, for whatever reason, don’t do it. Expect to meet the same person when you get back. Maybe I’ve already rebuilt your life and this time you’re going to suffer.
“If you go, I will not wait for your return: take the sighs, the smiles and the kisses; if you go, you will leave me alone in a dead end: also take the moon, an accomplice of our love. “
-Jeiko Jimenez-
Nobody owns anybody. Power is in our choices, which will build the future and change our present. We can’t stop anyone, not even ask to wait. If we leave, who knows what can happen?
We leave and believe that the other will be waiting for us, but everything we do has its pros and cons; everything has consequences.