Sometimes our life sinks into a cliff that seems relentless, you go to the emotional, physical, social and professional background and snuggle up to it, with a fear and sadness that become resistant and cause the appearance of different disorders of the mind.
Everyone has serious problems, has had dramas or even tragedies in their life, but these descriptions have more to do with how the person handles them than with the event itself, everyone is strong and has a plan until they feel pain. a plan, but we have to do it again. When you touch the bottom, you may feel lost.
- Aaron Beck.
- In his explanation of depression.
- Refers to the concept of down arrow and other resources such as the paradoxical magnification technique to challenge certain irrational thoughts.
- By taking these two techniques and your own experience as an example.
- You’ll find that when you tap bottom you can only climb.
“The real pain, the pain that makes us suffer deeply, sometimes makes even reckless men serious and persistent; even the poor in spirit become smarter after great pain. “
-Fior Dostoyevsky-
Everyone is afraid of the adverse events that may occur, but when you have already experienced great pain and feel that you have hit rock bottom, it remains to be aware that there are two options: continue in this almost vegetative and painful state or return. It is your decision.
The down arrow is a cognitive therapy technique that teaches you to select a negative thought and answer the question: if that thought were true, what would it mean to you ?, the answer would be a new negative thought Successive questions (drawing down arrows) You would have to ask, with what counterproductive beliefs (perfectionism, need for approval, fears, etc. ) would be revealed.
If you are trapped with a thought of pain and think that you have reached the bottom and that nothing has a solution, you must explain what it means to you and usually another negative thought will appear, for example, when you face someone who has lost one of his children and has the idea of not being able to take care of others, ask them: what would another child’s illness mean to you?
Surely another feeling of pain will appear, and so on, until you reach the most catastrophic view of your life; However, despite the harshness of the exercise and what happened, this person would realize that he could endure it and stay alive. your thinking that amplifies pain, much more than it actually happens.
At this point, the person may realize that even after suffering a devastating event, he can still suffer others, because nothing is certain in this life, even his dynamics of defeatist thoughts could provide them: this can lead to job loss, which the rest of your children will eventually leave. Anyway, she loses everything she values.
At this point, the person realizes that he is in the territory of discouragement, but does not want to go down to the winery, he only has to climb and, in addition, he will do it more easily than he thought. There’s not much to lose, just fear.
Paradoxical magnification is a cognitive technique in which the patient is asked to exaggerate negative thoughts, rather than trying to stop or control them. Paradoxically, such thoughts may seem absurd and meaningless. Obviously, this technique should be used for negative thoughts associated with relative gravity events (it would not be plausible to address the fearful thoughts of the future shortly after the loss of a child with this technique).
Paradoxical magnification gives the patient the chance that they may not be in the worst condition in the aspect in which they feel affected, you may feel lonely because you have just broken a romantic relationship, but you are far from in the worst possible mood. loneliness, in which you could not trust your family or friends.
Let us bring our pain to the terror of tragicomedy and laugh at the absurdity of our own catastrophism.
There is nothing in a person’s life that can sink her if they don’t really allow it, we put the limits, times and ear attentive to the harmful comments of these kinds of people who speak out without having experienced anything like it in their life. everyone has their own ‘things’.
There are people who live bitter moments and end up being bitter and bitter for others, there are others who make their bitterness the antithesis of what they want for their lives: they know what it is and do not want it for them or for anyone else. They are people of light, born on the grayest side of their lives.
When do we go beyond the limits of ridicule, pain, humiliation, the feeling of being judged, miserable?when we overcome them and see that we have suffered enough, we reach the true meaning of our existence. Because it’s only when you’ve reached the bottom and understood the process that you realize the only possible option is to scale.
We are sure that we will no longer act out of ego, but for genuine personal well-being, we will withdraw from the competence of others to simply fight for our own dreams. Of so many things that happened and suffered, the best, by sheer inertia, is yet to come. Hurry up, get out of mourning it, start living and let it come. So low that you’ve arrived, now all you can do is climb.