You may think that the title of the article is incorrect and that the correct sentence should be a question, with a question mark. However, it is not the intention to ask, “How can you know when a relationship has ended?”but to reflect on that moment when we already know that a relationship is over, but we do nothing.
Because, sad as it may seem, many of us have extended relationships far beyond what would be necessary, although we know that love no longer burns and that there are no more embers to rekindle the fire that once shone so majestic and happy.
- Then you have to end a relationship when you already know that there is nothing there.
- In honor of what was once so beautiful.
- So beautiful.
- Stretching suffering unnecessarily is simply throwing more earth into the already extinguished fire.
- And so we can only make even more distant the memories of happiness that these loving souls once lived.
Now a question, but the question is: why extend a finite relationship?Are the bonds and motives that bind us so strong that many of us feel unable to prevent pain, knowing that love is long gone?
? What’s my way, waiting?Do what you do, hug, sleep with someone today and tomorrow with someone else ??- Frida Kahlo-
For the human being the need to feel protected is very strong, that way we do not think that we should change anything, and if there was always someone waiting at home, we think that there should be now too.
The men and women of this world are very afraid of loneliness, because we grew up in a society that taught us to live like this, we always need someone to wait for us at home.
From a young time they teach us that as adults we need to have a relationship, we need a relationship. A job, a house, but above all a relationship will give us a full life, with the goals achieved and achieved.
Every day, however, we find ourselves stronger than we are not satisfied alone, we have to be ourselves, realize our most hidden dreams, but we are not prepared to achieve these goals and that causes frustration, because there is an inability to be happy with ourselves and with what we want.
At the moment we take refuge in the routines of empty relationships, in which all the small pieces lack love, but that offer us tranquility and rest, although the distance to what we really need and dream of is very great.
In life, we’ve been taught to be afraid. And a great fear is losing your loved one, even if there is no love in the relationship, even if there is nothing.
“The hardest part is not the first kiss, but the last. -Paul Geraldy-
The condition can continue. There will also be a little respect, understanding and friendship or collegiality. But it’s not love, and we know it. In parallel with the terror of the imagination of loss, there is the agitation of the mind, soul and heart, which prevents us by making the fateful decision that will end the relationship.
Perhaps the insecurity that has appeared in our hearts from a young time prevents us from making difficult decisions that must be made in the life to come, because although we know that love is over, we are not able to say it out loud, not even admit it for ourselves.
Perhaps the terror of imagining loneliness and not having anyone when you get home prevents you from making that decision that you know is the right one, this happens if you have not yet found your courage to walk your own steps in the direction that suits you best. .
Maybe I’m afraid of what they’re going to say, what’s my whole family going to think?How am I going to do this with my kids?And even if you live an unhappy and painful existence, that drags your dignity through a relationship that has lost its passion for so many years, and that kills you a little more on your own every day, you decide to do nothing.
It is not always easy to look into our hearts, especially if it is wounded, but it is necessary, because a broken relationship, in which there is no more love, is one of the most terrible curses that can fall upon our souls. you are brave, sincere in your thoughts and you do what you have to do, you will make your dream of being happy again someday come true.