When you have a desire or goal in mind, be careful, be careful. Be careful when choosing who to comment on your wishes with, whether you believe it or not, there are many people who are dedicated to ending dreams, those who envy expectations, those who advance those same goals, and obviously people. who will judge it later based on how much he has achieved.
One thing we all know is that it is not always easy to identify people of trust, not only that, what we often do is put in the hands, mind and heart of others the visualization of a great project of life, an example of this are the Times in which we seek closeness with our parents and brothers to discuss with them our desire to achieve such a thing , to make this trip, to risk the relationship?
“The best way to know if you can trust someone is to trust them yourself. – Ernest Hemingway-
Almost without waiting, the face of skepticism, the ironic gaze and the word that envelops the effervescence of our dreams appear. “Get it out of your head, is it silly?” I say this because I like you, but what do you think?is beyond your means, be objective and abandon this idea ??
These and many others are some of the most common phrases we hear, and why not, there are people who say nothing and make us believe that they are with us, that we have their help, their complicity and their closeness. the most unexpected moment appears small betrayal or unexpected disappointment.
Why are we doing this?
Most of us know the situation of the person who wants to grow up in their work and comment with their colleague on duty having a coffee. At lunchtime, the whole company already knows its goal. Perhaps this employee should have used a filter to anticipate the possible consequences of disclosure?
The answer is yes and not at the same time, not in the first place because according to neurobiology we are all programmed to trust others, that is exactly what explains a study published in?The Journal of Neuroscience? That demonstrates confianza. es fundamental importance in our social life, because otherwise, if we were to be betrayed at all times, we would be overwhelmed by almost traumatic stress.
On the other hand, we are sometimes wrong on the side of a certain lack of prudence, or rather, because we are not competent in applying the three rules that define the dynamics of trust or a good confidante. Explain what it’s all about.
When in doubt, be careful. However, what often happens is that the very expectation of this project and the effervescent excitement of the novelty lead us to open our filters too much and comment on the less appropriate information, even with the least adapted people.
It is advisable to be careful and apply these simple principles
Sometimes it can happen that even with this trusted tripod, the person fails. Can our own lifelong friend do it, betray us, or let our own family react in a manner contrary to what we originally expected?Knowing how to act in these cases will be of great help.
People fail, but sometimes we fail too. We can all transmit, if we aspire to it, the feeling of being perfect and fallible at the same time, that is why, over time, we develop a certain caution, a behavior based on discretion and a limited but adequate proximity with the most special people. Those who knew how to be at all times: wind, storm or sunny days.
“Trusting everyone is foolish, but not trusting anyone is naive. – Juvenal-
This wisdom to understand with whom we should comment on certain things and with those who do not arrive with time and relentless experience. Gradually we will understand that there are Doctoral profiles cutting off the wings of others, teachers skilled in curbing illusions so that no one is more than themselves, because if we dare to be freer, more capable and happier, for these people, it is a great sacrilege.
Time will also teach us that it is better to be discreet, watch out for words, and fight for our dreams with determination and silence. To do this, put aside the advantages of others, as well as criticism or comments that, at some point, would be a barrier in the way.
So let’s learn to choose who to trust, never forgetting that it’s self-confidence that brings us closer to the highest goals.