Think for a moment about the happiness that exists (or not) in your life, what does this happiness depend on?The others? One mistake we make that makes us unhappy is relying on others to achieve our happiness. If others aren’t happy, neither are we, but it shouldn’t work that way!
“If your happiness depends on others, do I suppose you’re in a difficult situation?
? Richard Bach?
Do you identify with that? What about the following?
In life, we always try to be beautiful to others. What’s the point?Anyway, whenever we can, we bow our heads to stay in line and not create conflicts.
But that’s not the case. If differences arise between two people and this creates conflict, don’t feel bad!He thinks they should both respect each other’s opinions, and if someone reacts to that, it’s not worth making you feel bad.
Your fear is to feel guilty. You must bow your head so that these conflicts do not occur and therefore be “happy” Your happiness is in you and you must not repress yourself for fear of the misfortune of others. Your happiness will come when you begin to give yourself the courage to deserve.
When you depend on others, there will come a time when you realize that you are not happy, you are actually looking for the happiness of others, not yours, you seek the comfort of avoiding a confrontation, the joy of being good. With everyone, but, in fact, it’s a constant concern to keep all this under control.
Stop being vulnerable to other people’s opinions!You have to believe in yourself, your chances and stop relying on approval, how others want to see you, you don’t have to control everything, you don’t have to please everyone, it’s impossible to achieve and only you to be frustrated.
“Do you learn to be happy when you understand that being sad is useless?
Accept that the happiness of others is not yours, that there will always be someone who will not do it with you, and that is something you cannot avoid!And I say more, do you learn to be happy with rejection, criticism, conflict?Think of yourself first, not the others. Be selfish at least once; That’s not bad!
Initially dealing with this situation is not easy, by inertia you will continue to try to please, control situations and avoid problems, but it has to end and requires a lot of effort. First, you need to be aware of your addiction and then start acting.
When you start giving yourself the courage you deserve and understand that your happiness depends only on yourself, it will be time to react to the things you’ve previously prevented from happening, if someone is against you or is trying to reorient your life in your way, react your way!In addition to having an adrenaline rush, you’ll feel good!
You also have to answer “What it means to be happy” because for each person happiness is in different things. That’s why we can’t let it depend on others, because it’s personal!Maybe you’re afraid to find your own happiness or you don’t want to take that responsibility. In any case, only you can find your own happiness.
What does happiness mean to you? That is the first question you should answer, but don’t make the mistake of thinking of someone else. No, now is the time for you to think about yourself, you come first, be responsible and find your happiness.
If you depend on others to be happy, we hope you can gradually learn to seek your own happiness, without needing anyone. It’s very easy to leave this responsibility to others, because being unhappy is easy!Start changing that today.