Have you ever felt like your worst enemy? There is no doubt: living fully and getting the satisfaction of our desires in the sense of supposed happiness is not an easy task, in fact we are talking about a mission with principle, but without end.
On the one hand, there may be unfavourable environmental conditions: economic, professional, domestic difficulties, etc. There may also be internal conditions, such as having a disease, going through a misfortune, or directly imposing a level of demand on us that are not ready to meet at this time.
- On the other hand.
- There is more or less obvious competition with other people who are also struggling to achieve the same goals.
- These people may be our enemies.
- But sometimes you’re your worst enemy.
Sometimes some lucky people who live in a supportive environment and apparently have little difficulty getting what they want, feel unhappy. At first, there are no obstacles or enemies. So, what’s the problem?What’s going on?
The obstacle may have been created by the person himself, when he has become his own enemy by the way he judges himself or by the goals he proposes. This is something we’ve all done before and we’ll keep doing. So, intuitively, we can understand the consequences of this self-imposed burden.
Often, when this happens, the problem lies in self-love, self-care, self-esteem fails and has nothing to do with selfishness, it’s not about thinking ‘I’m above everything and everyone’, it’s about thinking, “I deserve the same treatment and understanding that I use with others. “
Loving oneself means recognizing one’s worth and considering oneself as important as others in life. For many people, it’s not easy. They don’t know how to judge themselves objectively.
People who are not objectively judged exalt the virtues of others and are able to forgive the greatest mistakes and faults of others, on the other hand, they are extremely unfair to themselves, demanding and even cruel, they are their own enemies.
This behavior can cause a deep bitterness that leads to depression and neurotic behavior, you have to know how to value yourself objectively and not compare with others, only in this way we will expel the enemy.
In general, this way of being and feeling is the result of particular learning and maturation. The child, from birth, is self-centered by nature. She has no social conscience yet and thinks that everything around her belongs to her or happens to her.
This idea is corroborated by the fact that the child is usually the center of attention, it was later, through education and contact with other children, that he discovered that there were more people around him and discovers that, like her, these people deserve respect and consideration.
It is normal for a person who grows and builds his character on the basis of this philosophy to become an adult confused between what suits him for justice and what would be a reprehensible selfishness; to avoid terrible feelings of guilt, prefers to deny any meritocratic self-criticism. The person behaves as if he were his own enemy, to whom he gives no chance.
On the other hand, some moral and religious formations emphasize humility as one of the most precious virtues, threatening its absence of punishment and sin. A personality that grows in this course of action tends to set flexible limits, considering that for everyone there is only one correct way to proceed.
To overcome our inner enemy, the first step is to realize that the problem exists, we must observe our daily behavior and the dynamics of our thoughts, see how many times we deprive ourselves of small pleasures thinking that it suits us or that we do not deserve it.
Let us begin here, encouraging ourselves with small rewards and praise for our minimal achievements and positive efforts, perhaps without realizing it one day we will find ourselves struggling to achieve something important that we want and, for justice, that we deserve.